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Isn't the whole list thing a bit picky also.
reply to post by theabsolutetruth
Heck my list at the moment would be.
Law of Attraction in Action! Tell the universe WHAT you NEED so it can provide!
For me, there are plenty of men than meet my ''list'' criteria
just if only they all came with a 'true personality' label clearly legible, from the start.
Potential partner is one thing but True Love is something a list can't show.
True love is hard to find. Because you can't look for it and you can't find it.
In my view, it just happens when it happens.
I think we don't have "soul mates" -- but that there are many people we could actually have a true love with -- but if we don't meet them, and aren't open to it, then we can't have it.
I had relationships. I had infatuations, "in love" episodes, intense "romantic" relationships and lusty romps...I had relationships where I really really liked the guy, and wanted them to be the one, but I didn't feel anything physically - even if they were attractive. Can't seem to force the romance/physical side just because you like everything else. And, if you don't have a friendship and some "likes" - I don't think a physical connection will sustain you.
I had a tumultuous relationship with what I would call the love of my life. We had a lot of problems, he had a lot of issues that he couldn't seem to work through...but I loved him, unconditionally. Sometimes I was so hurt by him, or so angry about his actions (addictions), but I loved and cared about him, knowing full well that I couldn't change him, rescue him, etc. He was killed in an accident. I've never felt that kind of love again. Sometimes I start to slip and think we get "one" - but then I realize that isn't true, and I need to stay open. But I am not anxiously "looking for someone" or "looking for the one." I am just being me and need to just be more open to possibilities.
I "fell in love" the instant our eyes met the first time we met. I "knew" he was my love the moment time actually stood still when I touched his hand when he had fallen over laughing about something. I was certain, even after I would not let him return to the house when his addictions took over, that I loved him unconditionally, even though I could not live with him at the time.
So, all to say, be the best you that you can be. Be happy. Be who you are, and strive to be an even better version of that - not for someone else, but for you.
True love isn't about you. It's about two people.
I believe we all have several potential soulmates.
Some people are overly complicating my list, or making it all about physical traits. That is so not the point of the exercise.
The secret behind the Law of Attraction is Action. If you dream every day of winning the lottery, it is all for naught unless you buy a ticket (or two, or three). The same thing goes when you want that special person in your life.
If you really want to find someone who shares your passion for gourmet meals, or foreign travel, or hiking in the woods -- it needs to go on your list. You might not have a single physical trait on your list. That is up to you. Your subconscious and the universe responds to a specific directions. If you don't know what you want, don't complain on what you get.