True love in my opinion is a deep deep love that transcends the physical.
I have had a lot of relationships, in lust, loving but perhaps not in love, and in love. Even being in a relationship where there was love, but I was
in love with another man.
I strive for faithfulness in relationships and 99% if in a committed relationship, I am. That hasn't prevented loving relationships ending because I
fell in love with another. There are a few loving relationships from my past where I will always have a deep bond with these men, regardless if not in
love with them anymore. There are a few that the 'falling in love with another' in hindsight probably wasn't being in love, and some almost
inexplicable and they never matched the love that was in the first relationship. I see these sort of flippant decisions as relationship learning
experiences of my 20's.
I believe people cannot own others and cannot command their feelings. I have started relationships that started out good but rapidly declined because
of various factors yet the guy kept on demanding my feelings which widened the gap more until it ended.
I have had friendships that developed in to deeper loving relationships but it wasn't the same as being in love.
Being in love is when you see the person and there is such depth of emotion, if the love is reciprocated, it is the most deep, natural bond like
knowing them forever in some sort of eternal relationship.
Unless love at first sight, which for most is rare, most relationships start with getting to know a person and love growing from that into a truer
In my experience, certain things are expected, such as basic things like manners, appropriate behaviour, hygiene, wearing appropriate clothing for the
occasion (doesn't need to be the best clothes / designer etc), very importantly there has to physical, emotional and intellectual compatibility, as
well as compatibility of personalities.
Also as people grow and mature their relationship requirements evolve. When people have children their relationship requirements also evolve. The
impractical fun guy the carefree attitude might not be so appropriate anymore. The hot guy with commitment issues again isn't so appropriate. People
evolve, emotions evolve, relationships evolve.
edit on 4-1-2014 by theabsolutetruth because: (no reason given)