posted on Dec, 28 2013 @ 09:15 PM
Thank you for bringing this topic to ATS Akragon, it has been heavily on my mind for a couple months now. I turned 37 in June and it was as if my
metabolism hit a brick wall... I've gained almost 25 pounds since then and I haven't been eating any differently, no more or less "exercise", I'm
not doing anything different at all, same poop different day, ya know? Also, I now have a blotch of dark skin on my right cheek which is new and the
pores are getting larger on my face. I spent the past few months feeling less and less attractive. Add to all of this the fact that my oldest son
turned 18 on Dec.1st and you end up with one depressing situation.
Then the other day I had an epiphany of sorts (thank gawd lol); "I'm just getting older, that's all there is to it." I guess for me it was hard
because I have had extremely low self esteem the majority of my life and only a few years ago did I start to really see that, even though it isn't a
"Hollywood" beauty, I'm actually an attractive woman in the real world. I wish I would have realized this much earlier in my life because I'm sure
I would have been a much more confident person who most likely would have achieved more. Having low self esteem is very limiting, it makes you feel
disconnected and unsure of yourself in so many ways. I blame this on the entertainment industry, hocking their "sex sells" wares on the general
public and making people believe that you have to measure up to those very unrealistic standards to measure up.
I have to give credit to my husband because he went online with his computer illiterate self and showed me pictures (paintings) of what was considered
before Hollywood came along and stigmatized mankind's idea of beauty.
(I'm going to try to upload some images into my reply... it's my first ever attempt, so I'm crossing fingers.)
Here are some examples of pre~Hollywood beauty:
We all need to remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and since we're the ones "beholding" our images every day in the mirror, it's
up to us to behold our individual beauty