reply to post by danielsil18
As a married woman, I can only recommend it! Of course, once you've found the right person only!
I made the choice in my life to wait for the right person, as I kept seeing people around me with miserable relationships, temporary bed partners and
nothing but fights for those that did try out a relationship after relationship with first possible person willing only so they did not have to feel
alone or be marked as a "loser" by society. A common pattern I noticed with them all is that they all knew they would always find someone as needy
of a partner as themselves, and therefor didn't take their current partner serious. Flirting behind their back, always looking for other
possibilities knowing their current partner isn't "tied" to them. As soon as any indifference or arguments would appear,they would simply dump them
and look for someone else, instead of trying to solve whatever the issue in their relationship was, and just repeat that pattern over and over again.
I could never imagine living like that, so I stayed out of it until I fell in love for the first time, with the man that is now my husband.
Marriage, if done by two people who truly loves each other, is something magical really.
Love for me is knowing that this person is someone you would sacrifice everything you have for without a second of a doubt. Someone you want to keep
happy and healthy at all costs, because his happiness makes you happy, and you can not imagine spending one single day apart. If he would leave me I
would be so destroyed inside that I could never even consider finding someone else to give my heart to. He is my one and only, and not having him
anymore in my life would be the death of me. I never had the need for any other man in my life, never considered the possibility and never wanted one.
I don't want attention from other men, and therefor dress normal with minimal makeup when I leave our home, and only dress up for him, as he is the
only one I want to find me attractive. I said yes when he proposed to me, because I wanted to be his wife forever, and he asked for my hand because he
too wanted to be with me til death do us apart.
Having someone lay next to you in bed at night, someone to hold and cuddle and kiss etc is all a wonderful thing that we all need in life! But
Marriage goes beyond that. Someone asking for a hand in marriage do so with the knowledge that this person he/she can trust, feel safe with, and get
respected from. People who marry out of love ( and not money or scamming ), do so because they know this is the person they want by their side for as
long as they live, and they are willing to go through hard times with them just as they go through happy ones.
I know that there is one person in my life, who I can share my deepest secrets, my inner fears, my general thoughts and my opinions with on a level no
one else can fill, just as he can do the same towards me. It is a wonderful feeling to have someone you can trust with your life, who would do
anything for you just like you would for him. We are very happy together, and never ever went to bed arguing or fighting. Whenever there was a fight,
we solved the issue together immediately.
I have something people around me envy. Some even forcefully have tried to break it apart and of course failed. Why is that? Because they have seen
how happy I am with my husband, what harmony we have in our relationship that they did not experience so far, and the love we have and the connection
we share for each other. We are attracted to each other on more levels then the physical appearance. We connect with our minds, knowing each other
inside out. He is not just my husband, he is my soul mate!
I can say this, Do not marry unless you know this is the one you want to be with for as long as you live. A hard statement maybe, but that's how it
You have to know this person good, you have to know that you are willing to give everything for him/her, and know he/she would do the same for you. If
you consider other people on the side, marriage is not for you. It is a commitment that unless you love your husband or wife with all your heart and
soul, will cause more damage then good in time.
Love is the key word.