Just one thing to say. Those 23 years aren't gone, poof! You lived them with her. You brought kids into the world. Are they suddenly not there? Would you have it that they had never been born? It's difficult to backtrack under those circumstances and say you made a wrong decision. Your kids might vehemently disagree. Even of this didn't turn out to be a perpetual relationship, you still had it. You still did it. You still lived through it. No one can take that away from you, including yourself. By looking forward to your next phase in life you don't have to reject your past. You can embrace that, too.
Freedom!!! Sweet horrible horrible freedom.
Ahh It will be fine man. Better to be single and happy than in a relationship and sad.
Look on the bright side now you dont have to worry about anything but your kids and you.
You can do all the things you want.
23 years of being together gone. I'm I sorry,no. will I miss it,of course I will.
That's almost half my life time.
Was it wasted time, maybe some of it. I did have kids, the most precious of those times that I cherish.
But they are nearly grown and can hopefully understand how relationships work.
It is sad though. I didn't want it to happen this soon, but it was forced out of me.
I was willing to carry on the facade of a marriage for another year or so, but the other half just had to have it out and quit pretending before christmas.
So, I told her the truth about how I have for years have been trying to make myself believe that this was going to work out, only knowing I was lying to myself and her.
It was rough and ugly.
But it was the truth.
It was time for the pretending and lies to stop.
She knew the truth, but was in denial. It hurt me to the core to see her in so much pain.
But, I have tried and she has tried and it just wasn't there.
Maybe it was never there, I don't know.
I will make sure my kid's and her are taken care of, I will not abandon them.
I just can not be with her anymore.
Call me what you will, but love can not be forced upon you,it is something you welcome into your heart.
i just don't understand how you can be with someone for 23 years and call it quits ...one would wonder they would have faced everything in all the 23 years they have been together and learnt to cope with problems . I just really don't like hearing this kind of stuff ..
Would there be pain in her eyes if her love did not exist ? honest question here ....
The trust , faith and understanding gained over these 23 years cannot ever be replaced easily
I feel worse for the woman to be honest ...edit on 14-12-2013 by maddy21 because: (no reason given)