reply to post by canadiansenior70
Since 14 I've been working saving up money knewing how my life would turn out. My parents weren't exactly young when they had me or my sister, almost
in their 50s. As a young teen I had to take the advantage of living freely and save money. So I'm living on savings, my sister gets money from the
gov., in which I use to spend on her.
You said your Mom was 63 and you were 24. That makes your Mom 39 when she had you. By today's standards, that's normal and it certainly doesn't make
your Mom "almost in her 50's." I'm having a hard time believing everything you've said, mostly because a lot of your complaints are vague or generic.
And this one simply is not true by your own words.
My mom is the devil. She has:
- Stolen money from family
She's part of the family. Did she steal money from herself? Or are you talking about more distant relatives? Yes, "stealing money" is bad, but you
provide no context. If my wife takes $20 from my wallet, is she stealing? Nope. It's community property.
- Cheated on my dad 3 times
Surely not in her current decrepit state. Your dad has been dead three years. It's a moot point, and it's not like this never happens with couples.
You're being very judgmental here.
- Abused her children
"abuse" is a loaded term. Did she physically abuse you and your sister leaving scars and broken bones, or did she yell at you, which you didn't
- Caught her smoking in front of newborns
Oh, my God The depravity of it all! I'm sure those newborns are scarred for life!
- ruined my home, tabacco spits and cigarette ashes all over my house very unhygenic
YOUR home? Really? You own it and bought it with your own money? Or is it your Mom's home, which you are living in. yes, smoking is a dirty habit, no
question. I'm sorry, but it's not a deal killer.
- prayed for my death
She must have told you that unless you overheard her conversations with her deity. In any case, it sounds like the hatred is mutual. Why is it okay
for you, but not for her. Sounds like you have been praying for the same thing.
- thrown away thousand of dollars worth of electronics; laptop/games
My Mommy threw away my beloved red corduroy jacket, too. I was devastated. I've never forgiven her, evil person that she is. But "thousands"? That
means you had thousands to spend on trivia in the first place. So how poor are you, really?
Now if she does have diabetes (probably adult onset Type II), then at least initially, it's controllable by a very cheap pill. Even if you pay full
price, it's generic and not expensive. If she's not taking even that, you won't have long to wait because her condition will deteriorate anyway.
You see, when you get specific with your complaints, they come off as very trivial. The real issue here is that you feel put out for being stuck
helping your family. You feel obligated to, but you really don't want to, and that makes you angry.
And some of your story does not make sense. Here you are without a job and somehow you are living well enough to still have an internet connection.
You say you are living on savings you accumulated as a teenager. Wow, that's amazing given that teens rarely make more than minimum wage and 14 year
olds can't legally work without a permit. Unless you are a teenage rocket scientist, there's no way you are "living on savings." In fact, your living
on the government dole intended for your sister. In other words, you are trading not having to work for caring for your family. You are being
If things are as bad as you say, then you need to leave. One would hope you'd find a place for your sister before you did, but given your hatred for
your mother and how evil she is, it's hard to believe you owe her anything at all.
Yes, I know you won't like this and will likely lash out at what I have said. But ATS is not just a place where you can get sympathy and ATS should
NOT be a place that simply acts as your co-dependent. You have serious issues, and perhaps you ought to see a professional, if not for yourself, then
for your family, who it sounds like is at your mercy. If anyone is vulnerable here it is them, not you.
But eventually you have to leave. So leave. And live with your decision.
edit on 12/12/2013 by schuyler because: (no reason given)