reply to post by Night Star
That's so true,Night Star,here in Africa I see it all the time-even in the store when nipping in for bread+milk.I'd my son is with,the moment a
child,of whatever race comes walking down the aisle with his/her mom-my kiddo and the other will smile ar interact in some way,in any public place
like a restaurant,the kids of all races will gravitate towards each other+start interacting,and at my son's school its the same,the lil ones see
nothing except another kid to have fun with,to play with.
But as my daughter has told me,that does not usually carry over into high-schools here,there kids of different races tend to stick to friends of
their own race, with some exceptions.My daughter has a good friend,a lovely black girl,at whose house she has slept over quite a few times,but this
girl is moving to a major city beginning 2014,to a school where she will get a scholarship for her excellence at playing squash,this girl+her dad are
champs at squash.My daughter is very sad at losing her friend,but that is life.She is in the minority,as far as being good friends with a black girl
goes,like I said,although there is mot much racial hostility at all between teens,the kids do tend to stick to their respective race groups for
friendship,in this region, in most schools. In the cities like Cape Town or Johannesburg racially mixed friendships are far more the norm.At my
son's school it is a given,there don't seem to even be a concept of different races.
So I have to conclude that something happens,in my country,between childhood+teenage years,something seeps in and interferes with the children's
perception of "Oh hey,someone to play with!" Something causes older children here to make friends along racial lines,as opposed to just seeing a
possible friend,no matter which races are involved.
Maybe it comes fom the parents,idk,but my youngest gal+son has always had good friends from other races,in primary school(grades 1-7) my daughter's
best friend for years,was a Muslim girl.They never formally stopped being friends,it was a gradual drifting apart,as each got busier with their own
lives,I guess.Either way,there is this pure and precious,and I believe divine/sacred connection that all very young children seem to feel, towards
each other-a magick,almost,that is so beautiful and uplifting+precious beyond words-and then something happens as they get older,and divisions seep
in-my country has a long way to go towards being a society where race is not an issue,especially with a government that is no help with trying to
build bridges among people,instead actively encouraging divisionary tactics.
But everytime I see the the glee in the eyes of small kiddo's from different races,at having found a playmate where ever they happen to cross
paths,,it lifts my spirits+gives me hope.