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Scouse100
One thing that has been cemented though is that I will never use physical means to discipline my child, ever.
rickymouse
A parent cannot get an effective spanking to work if they themselves do what they are spanking their kids for doing, the kid will see this. If spanking is done too often it teaches nothing to the kid. The kid learns that spanking is a sort of affection so they fight with their friends. We got a mess in society, spanking should not be considered bad if used appropriately.
So how does this work when a parent is hitting their child as punishment for hitting another child for example?
ketsuko
Also, when they were doing this study, did they control for single parent homes v. two parent homes? How many of the spanked children who wound up in jail also came from single parent homes? It is well known that single parent homes and growing up in poverty are the biggest determinants for who winds up in jail. I would think a side by side comparison of populations of spanked children from intact two parent and single parent (or broken) families might also tell us a lot about how much impact spanking itself actually has.
I just enjoy debating issues that are important to me, I am trying to illustrate my point of leading by example.
How many of the spanked children today who wound up in jail had any exposure to religion when they were raised?
As was mentioned early on, religion is one of the better ways to give children a firm foundation for right and wrong and why you should hold to it even if you eventually decide you don't believe in the religion itself. That early training still tends to hold.
Klassified
I disagree 100%. Religion is not by any means a good foundation for teaching right and wrong. A good way to teach right and wrong is to show them. In word and deed. To help them understand there is a reason society has rules. Societies have rules because that's what allows a group of people to live together. Rules that benefit the individual, and the group. Without those rules, society begins to break down. Religion as a tool for child-rearing is a poor substitute for understanding the basics of how a society works.
Save the religion until a child is old enough to make up their own mind as to what they want to believe.
Gosh sorry if I come across as pushy with my opinions, this is not my intent, maybe I just got a bit excited! I never accused anyone of abuse BTW just wanted to clear that up!
And explain that to a 5-year-old ... or even a 6 or 7-year-old and you get a blank stare.
Early on, it's easier to use religion for a reason why than complex explanations of society.
You and I can talk complicated social reasons, but we're adults.
seeker1963
reply to post by Scouse100
Gosh sorry if I come across as pushy with my opinions, this is not my intent, maybe I just got a bit excited! I never accused anyone of abuse BTW just wanted to clear that up!
No reason to be sorry!
I was just trying to point out some obvious flaws on how we think towards each other when it comes to our individual freedoms!
Touchy subject, I know, but it is how WE deal with it as adults versus turning our childrens live over to the government that will make or break this country.....
Surely smacking a child also sends a signal that is is OK to smack, children look to their parents as an example.