reply to post by cody599
I raised my kids, did the best I could every day of their lives... not all was good enough, but it was my best at the time anyway...
I am sure you are the same...
thing is, kids will do this... get mad.. some of the most cutting comments in my life I ever received were from my daughter... but let me explain a
few things.
Girls are more emotional than boys, and their emotions are what runs them between the ages of 10 - 20. When they are scared, they are going to lash
out at someone... usually the closest one to them at the time. She is scared because of what happened to her mama...yet her mama is sick so she cant
lash out at her... your are going to be the one who gets the brunt of her frustrations right now as a result, because your just as close on an
emotional level.
and honestly - it shows you she DOES love and care for you, and shows she knows you love and care for her too... these actions right now show that...
no matter what it may seem like to you. She has enough faith that her lashing out will not drive you away... you only lash out at the people you know
are safe... and she knows you are safe cody...
She is needing something to help her feel safe, and since you cannot be there physically, (I just read that you could not) Then send again more money,
find a quicker way to get it to her along with a note that says you are willing to do anything she needs right now and that you love her regardless of
everything.
She is mad... not just at you, at the whole situation because she is not feeling very safe and protected, so don't go thinking she will come running
in your arms...
Help her to the best of your ability from afar. Just know she will get over this point in time. They always do.. It is simply your job to make sure
she is reminded that you will be there, with loving open arms, whenever she is ready.
I say these words not because of anything other than how my own daughter would do sometimes....believe me, it never meant my daughter did not love me
and have the utmost respect for me... its just sometimes she got scared and lashed out... because I was "safe".
edit on 19-11-2013 by
OpinionatedB because: (no reason given)