Sometimes I'm so bored and unmotivated that I can't even get out of bed????

I just don't get it. Like I have some major problems I'm dealing with, that seem never ending. They're serious but there's far far worse things in life that could happen to someone. So I find that a bit depressing. Then add to that the lack of anything to do, as I don't have a job, and I sold my last business a year ago now. I'd like to start something new but I'm just not sure what.

So I just find that some mornings, I just don't want to get out of bed. And I might even try, but then I'll feel tired and because I really have next to nothing to do, I'll just go back to bed. I feel like it's a bit irresponsible, and really it's a waste of life, as I should be working as diligently as possible on getting my life back to some semblance of normality.

I just overwhelmed by a lot of stuff so I find that when I sleep it just helps me forget about all lifes worries. But it's just been happening a bit too much, it's probably not healthy.

What do you think I should do?

I think that's called depression. Not sure though as I don't know all the details about you. Have you ever thought about Botany? I like to grow things. Even indoors. Do you have a pet? Have you thought about writing a book? There are many hobbies you should find one fitting your interests. Maybe staying in the house all the time is causing you to feel down. Having no hobbies while not working can definitely do that.

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how old are you?

sounds like you may have depression ??

maybe go to your Dr.

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Read, or maybe just start drinking heavily.

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Hey, don't be too hard on yourself, you are going through a change of routine and that, believe it or not, is a huge thing in what was once an ordered, through business-needs life.

It takes time to adjust, but this is a time when you have other opportunities and depending on your likes and dislikes, you can think about what you actually fancy doing.

My family have always suffered from recurrent depression which I inherited along with another illness which stopped me doing so much that I enjoyed. My work and my love of field archery suddenly left me, literally with a hole in my life, apart from the time spent with my family. You always want the things you can't have and I found I missed so much. You could almost say its a kind of grieving for some people - although I wouldn'tput you from what you've said in that category.

Yup, it's depression. The only thing with that is the side affects of meds. I tried different ones and they made me too out of it and sleepy. I do have one for my anxiety which helps with worrying too much though. It's different for everyone. I too say see your doctor.

caterpillage
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Read, or maybe just start drinking heavily.

Reading is a good idea if he can be arsed....

You may think that the drinking heavily joke is funny, but I can assure that comments like that can do a great deal more harm than good, especially if someone is believed to be suffering from depression, which Spartacus seems to be showing signs of. I have suffered with depression all my life due to a medical condition I have that only 1 in a million people have, globally. If you have never had depression, then you'll never understand how it affects you from day to day. I have tried the heavy drinking idea which got me into more deeper and deeper problems psychologically, which in turn took me even longer to go through a recuperation stage than what it should have done...

I like to have a laugh and a joke, but sometimes have a think what you are writing/saying. This person has a problem and wants to find a solution, not make the problem even bigger.....

Shiloh7
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Hey, don't be too hard on yourself, you are going through a change of routine and that, believe it or not, is a huge thing in what was once an ordered, through business-needs life.

It takes time to adjust, but this is a time when you have other opportunities and depending on your likes and dislikes, you can think about what you actually fancy doing.

My family have always suffered from recurrent depression which I inherited along with another illness which stopped me doing so much that I enjoyed. My work and my love of field archery suddenly left me, literally with a hole in my life, apart from the time spent with my family. You always want the things you can't have and I found I missed so much. You could almost say its a kind of grieving for some people - although I wouldn'tput you from what you've said in that category.


I would say it's a grieving process...I'm going through a similar transition as the OP.


P.S.
I find it very interesting that as "your love of field archery suddenly left you" I have been wanting to enter the sport.

caterpillage
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Read, or maybe just start drinking heavily.

This will make it MUCH worse.

You clearly are suffering from depression, if its lasted for a while or continues for weeks definitely go see your doc. Theres many options available to help, its not all drugs and doom.

My last dip was pretty much cured by going to see the Doc. I didnt get any actual prescriptions or counseling etc. Felt much better just having acknowledged it and talked to the Doc about it. Doc gave me plenty of tips too and they do work.

Also may want to avoid the news for a while, i know "deny ignorance" and all, some times a little time with ones head in the sand is a good thing for your mind.

Hi Spartacus...

I can honestly say that you are showing the signs of depression...

I have suffered with depression for a great part of my life, due to certain health conditions. I have also spent a great deal of my time in bed and cannot be bothered to get up, because it is easier to hide away under the sheets. But this behaviour is no good for you mentally or physically...

I have thoughts of death and suicide on a regular basis, which I feel would ease my daily pain of being down. I don't want to have these feelings, they are there and something I cannot control. I don't know whether you are at this particular stage or not, but either way, you really need to sort assistance. Don't be scared to sort assistance, and don't care what other people think, there are professionals out there who are trained in this area of expertise...

You need to go out and talk to others, socialising is a good thing. It may sound like hard work to do this, but you have to try...

I recommend that you go and see a medical specialist that can help you through this time, even get some kind of medication prescribed...

Counselling can also help...

You made this posted thread for a reason, maybe a cry for help, so try and take on board what others have forwarded to you (not the heavy drinking though) and find assistance...

But remember this...Only you can help yourself, others do not know how you feel, so you have to make the first move, don't expect others to do it for you...

Take care and try and be proactive.....

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Go for it and find a club because you don't want to be wandering around with other archers unaware you are there, people hunting with guns or some innocent individual getting in the way of your arrow and target etc.

Thats depression. Been there done that got the T shirt.

Go to a doctor and sort it out now or it will grow and eat you inside.

It's not Depression, it's just pure laziness getting the better of you. Get your butt up and clean the house or go do some yard work.

Diabolical
It's not Depression, it's just pure laziness getting the better of you. Get your butt up and clean the house or go do some yard work.

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Are you serious? Is this your answer to this thread?

How old are you, 12 or something?

If you are not joking, then go away you stupid person, it has nothing to do with being lazy...

These kinds of replies are so dangerous to a person who obviously needs some assistance, obviously you have never been in this kind of situation, otherwise you wouldn't come out with such futile rubbish...

I don't normally come back at people such as yourself in such a manner, but you have really pissed on the fire with your nonsense reply...

Now go away and have a look at yourself you stupid child.....

Buy your girlfriend a hot tub. That should do the trick.

Diabolical
It's not Depression, it's just pure laziness getting the better of you. Get your butt up and clean the house or go do some yard work.

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And this is why people go buy a gun and go nutz in a crowed or jump in front of trains.

Your a Idoit. More so than the guy who suggested heavy drinking.

Some people just can't handle the truth.

It is pure laziness. If you got up and did something, you wouldn't feel so crappy, find a hobby, but you want to wallow in your problems all day. "Woe is me". I got tons of problems, but I still get up, go to school, go to my job, come home and clean the house. Even though I want just stay in bed and do nothing.

Must be nice.

Here is some advice that may help.

1. Don't become a "usta". I "usta" go fishing. I "usta" go mountain biking. It is a dangerous thing that can lead to depression. Don't quit doing what you love!

2. Exercise even if you hate it. At least go for a walk. It helps to get out of the house.

3. Perhaps it is a low testosterone issue. Look up the symptoms. If you feel like you may be low, go get a blood test. Testosterone deficiency is becoming more and more common in males. It will kill your motivation and will make you tired.

Hope this helps in some way.

Yes, that's depression. Sounds like a bad attack.

Sure, see a doctor. If you can find/afford/be referred to a psychiatrist, better still.

In the meantime, something you can try is to make to-dp lists every day and tick each item off as the day progresses and you accomplish it. I know you have next to nothing to do (and sorry to hear it — that's the sovereign route to depression for sure) but list even little things like making the bed if there's nothing else to do. And make work for yourself, too — do you have a garden that needs tending, or an attic that needs to be cleaned out? A neighbour who could use some help? Then do the tasks you've listed, or as many as you can.

Break big tasks into small pieces, list them separately and tick off every one.

If you don't get something done today, put it on the list for tomorrow. If the list becomes overwhelmingly large, that's something to tell the doctor too.

It can be fixed. Preferably without pills. Good luck.

EDIT: The advice given by the poster above me is good too. At least points 1 and 2. Don't know about the testosterone, I've never been that hairy.

Here's another little tidbit, I lived with a depressed person for over 2 years and thank goodness it didn't wear off on me, it almost did. But, it amazes me when you don't want to do nothing, you have every excuse in the book. But, when it suits your fancy, you'll move your behind like no tomorrow. Depression, is an excuse to cry "woe is me" 24/7 and that's all it is. You want everyone to feel sorry for you, well, I'm not going to. Get off your behind and make your life better if you want it to change. You can't expect everyone to do everything for you.

Your probably just burn-out.