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NuclearPaul
I don't understand this sentence...
The two girls, 15 and 16 years old, face charges of permitting a minor to possess alcohol.
Was it the girls charged with this, or their parents? By allowing these young girls to stay home alone all weekend shouldn't mean the parents were no longer responsible for their welfare.edit on 25/10/13 by NuclearPaul because: (no reason given)
thesaneone
reply to post by SadistNocturne
So are you saying that your parents were bad parents because they left you and your sister home alone?
ObedientSheeple
Wow lol
Are you (the OP and some of the replies) seriously never considered having a party when your parents were out of town? and never attended a friends party whose parents weren't aware of it?
I seriously feel very sorry for your high school life, the biggest party anyone you have ever attended was probably a "pizza and pop" gig with a couple friends.
Cops did not need to be called it this situation, and physical abuse doesn't need to be applied as some of you have suggested, there are better ways to discipline your kids.
thesaneone
Hell, when I was a kid, we were left on our own (my older sister and I, she was 2.5 years older) and to our own devices. However, we absolutely knew that the slightest mistep would not only get us into a world of trouble, but that our parents would be even angrier over the fact that they then knew they couldn't trust us as they felt they could previously, and would stay home with us making our lives miserable (extra chores, extra homework, zero priviledges, etc) in the meanwhile until we had regained and re-earned trust in their eyes. Were we perfect? Hell no. Did My ass get tanned on a regular basis? Yes.
Well now I understand where you are coming from.
You were raised in a very strict household and think all parents whose children screwed up are bad parents.
Some parents do a great job of raising their children and sometimes they give them a little extra trust and sometimes kids will break that trust.
Now if you can show me some type of proof that these parent have been "bad parents" prior to this then I will agree with you that they are idiots.
thesaneone
reply to post by SadistNocturne
And you sound like a great parent but for you too think that a child will not break the rules a few times just to test the boundaries is foolish and it does not make you a bad parent it just means that kids will do stupid things.
You can't learn from mistakes if you don't screw up once in awhile.
SadistNocturne
snowspirit
rangerdanger
I was thinking about what would happen if my parents would've come home early on one of the days I threw a party.
My father wouldn't have called the cops. In fact, if I got caught throwing a rager, I would probably WISH they called the cops.
Im glad I never got caught, because it would've been a beating like no other.
Same thing would have happened to me, if my father would have been able to catch me first.
That said, these days it's illegal to beat your kids, so they don't learn to fear their parents.
Parents aren't even allowed to spank, how do you discipline a teenager, other than taking away privileges?
You start from day one. You instill the idea that you simply do not displease your parent. You instill the idea that the child simply must comply with demands, and do so pleasantly and respectfully.
Once you have that foundation set, although there will be bumps in the road, you have the basics covered.
Unity_99
Good parents are not scarey people to talk to, teens can confide and feel safe, and even know that if they are drunk and stuck somehwere they can wake them up in the middle of the night and get a ride home. Thats a good parent. Obviously if your older teen is taking off frequently you have to set boudnaries, and some families even end up in cousneling together learning how to negotiate, problem solve, but the object is to draw those skills out in the child, not instill your rules, come hell or high water. Thats just living your own harsh childhood and responding iwth harsh buttons from the imago, or bad relationship you had at home.
And in a home like that no one would be free to be themselves, make mistakes or bring their concerns up to their parents, it would be like living with strangers. My mother would have kicked a man out who treated the family like that, and so would I!