So let me get this straight... It's the parents that are responsible, not the kids. You are saying that kids should not be responsible for their own
decisions and should not suffer the consequences of their actions. That is exactly what is wrong with the world today. The abdication of personal
Yepp, you've got it straight, but only to a certain point.
The parents ARE responsible for laying down the proper groundwork and foundation of respect and good behavior in their children. The parents are
responsible for instilling in their children the idea that certain actions are 100% unacceptable by them. The parents are responsible for showing
their children that they, the parents, will follow through with appropriate reaction and punishment in response to the children's behavior.
Apparently, these children learned that hey, as long as the cats away, we can get away with playing.
My parents made it perfectly clear that we would never know exactly when they'd be home. My parents made it perfectly clear that family friends
would occasionally drive by and let them know if anything was going on that shouldn't have been going on. My parents would call to check in on us.
My parents made their expectations of our behavior perfectly clear before they left. If we were allowed guests, it was predetermined who we were
allowed to have over, how long, and when they should be gone by. My parents also had agreements with the neighbors that they would occasionally come
over to look in on us and they would return the favor for the neighbors children as well.
As time went by, and our parents knew they could trust us, they ceased some of the measures they were taking to check in on us. Not only did it make
US feel good that we were trusted, but it made our PARENTS feel good that they had done the right thing, and raised trustworthy children who did as
they were told, and behaved.
We were also taught that if we simply were adult enough to ASK for things we wanted, say, to have a certain number of friends over, guess what?
Particularly once we had *earned* their trust, we were allowed to do these things we wanted, and so much more.
I'm sorry, but the average parent today has been sold a load of crap on what it means to be a parent. It is the PARENT'S responsibility to instill
values, discipline, good behavior, and respect in the child. Without this coming from the parents, the children know absolutely no better.
When a parent has not done these basic things, then yes, they end up needing to call the police. As sad as it is.
Sad that you see this as a case of the children "abdicating responsibility". In all reality, it was the PARENTS who abdicated THEIR responsibility
to the children.