reply to post by IkNOwSTuff
You are right... This comes down to common sense; which you lacked the night of the issue.
You DO have a choice despite what all these other people say.
You missed that window of opportunity.
Now, the only thing to do is let the process run its course and prepare yourself.
This means asking for a DNA test (this can be done before birth).
If the woman in question denies this request, it is a revealing tell that this child may not be yours.
You can go to court and have the DNA test court ordered (which she cannot refuse).
However, the DNA test can be postponed until after birth.
You say you are well off in terms of finance but you are not in the correct mind set for raising a child.
But the challenges presented to us in life are generally given to us when we need the most.
This is not some God bother religious speak to try and ease you. I don't believe in fictional entities.
I have found through life experience that most times, these "curve balls", aren't always bad as they appear to be.
Sometimes quite the opposite.
You may find that this woman may offer you something that you lack personally (not physically, IE a child).
I so very much dislike the term "be a man" in regards to these situations because at every single turn that the phrase is thrown; you can be almost
damn certain it is a woman throwing it or a "man" that has no critical thinking capacity.
I get where you are coming from and I can understand your mindset.
What these other people need to understand is "being a man" doesn't just mean lay down and die and do what the woman says.
I know it is the woman that carries the child and I know she is the one that must bear all the mental, physical and spiritual stresses that come with
But you all need to know that it is a biological reaction that is taking place in the woman's body.
A biological process that needs two components to work.
Sperm and Ovum.
Sperm is provided by the MALE of the species.
Ovum is provided by the FEMALE of the species.
IT WAS NOT HIS ACTIONS ALONE THAT CREATED THIS OUTCOME.
She is just as much responsible as he.
All this BS about how she has the final say because it is HER body may be true in our current politically correct over governed environment.
But if she has the final say in taking the child to term, then she has to be okay to not receive any support from the man who CHOOSES NOT to.
Yes argue away that it is an easy cop out for the man...
Argue typical argument from a male's point of view... go right ahead.
But you can't have the chicken without the egg and you certainly can't get a child without Sperm and Ovum.
The final point in this man's story is whether or not he now chooses to be apart of this child's life (if it is his, pending a DNA test).