Ok I gone and done it now,
Im half the reason why a new life is gonna be on this planet in about 6 months
The mother is a neighbour who took advantage of my drunken state on 3 occasions (OK probably not but thats kinda how I feel right now), the 2nd
occasion the condom broke, my main concern was disease but thankfully we were both clear.
2 weeks ago I get a call from the girl telling me shes pregnant!!!!!!
My 1st thought was too say "damn that sucks, are you and the father serious?" then it hit me why she was telling me, Its mine!!!!!!!
I want a wife and kids for sure but I want them at the same time, there is no future for me and this girl, to be honest even shagging her was a
mistake and now she is potentially gonna be in my life to 1 degree or another forever!!!!!
We spoke today and she is planning on keeping it, obviously thats not what I want.
After trying to reason with her she cut me off and said "this is my decision not yours"
I told her that since it was going to have a major impact on my life I should have a say and at least be heard out, she politely listened to what I
had to say then basically told me to shove it and she was having it.
I wasnt happy but didnt scream or yell, I just left.
On the 2 minute walk home it hit me, How Fukn dare she or any woman say its not my decision!!!!!!
50+ years ago when there werent options OK you had to man up and marry whatever uggo you knocked up but nowadays its not the same, its no longer some
dodgy bugger in an alleyway with a coathanger its a legal and professional procedure, the moral implications are non existant as far as Im concerned
as I consider babies parasites till their born (Im sure this will change when Im having a child I want) and for me it just comes down to
practicalities, mentally, emotionally and financially neither of us alone or even together is ready for this.
When I asked for 1 positive reason for having the baby she didnt have one, not one yet she is still keeping it!!!!
I called her when I got home and was really freaking out so was a bit nasty, I told her she could barely look after a cat so how was she gonna look
after a baby, I told her she would been seen by her community as a slut, I asked her how the kid was gonna feel when one day he asks who its dad is
and he comes to visit me and my wife and children, I asked what was gonna happen to her social life, I asked how she was gonna manage work and being a
single mum etc etc
I basically told her if its not my decision then its not my responsibility, if she wants to have it go for it but consider me an anonymous sperm donor
and not a father, I told her I would not be contributing in anyway shape or form to the child and would bankrupt myself before she got anything.
Did I mean it? at the time yes, now? still 90% yes.
I was responsible ie used protection and this girl was a drunken booty call, if it was a long term or even short term GF I would embrace the situation
but like this, HELLS FREAKIN NO!!!!!!!
A female friend gave me some advice to just stress her out, if I keep on her about how irresponsible it is maybe she will see reason and have the
procedure or if not maybe I can stress her out so much that she miscarries? Not sure Ill aim for that but I wont lie and say Id be upset if I got that
Until we hit the 12 week cut off date in about 3 weeks I am gonna keep at her to have the procedure, I genuinely believe Im doing her a favour.
So Im curious to see what people on here think, Ive told several friends about this and all except a cluckky lesbian are on my side,
am I standing up for myself and every man who was told it "wasnt his decision" and then had to suffer the lifetime of consequences for a decision
that wasnt his or am I just another potential deadbeat dad trying to justify skipping out on a life he created?