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So I ask myself, how to handle it. Your list of no-nos I agree with, but as to what SHOULD one say, what I've decided is this:
1- mostly, conversate as normal
2- what you say or don't depends largely on your relationship with that person. Dont.ask the.neighbor.down the street who you barely know to share their most personal thoughts and feelings.
3 - this time around, for me, I'm going to let her know whether it is questions about what the docs have told or. ot told her, personal feelings, or simply shoot the proverbial bs, talk about daily.life, etc. On any given day, any topic is open, and the choice of what to talk about is up to her.
Many people, when fighting cancer, want to be in.control of their outlook
Yes free and clear 12 years.(what Lance Armstrong had) From your OP it sounded like those were the responses you got from talking about it.
Anyone who gets sick like some attention but some go over board. Some people like to wallow in their sickness.
So if someone gives some advice right now you wont take it because it came across the wrong way and got you all mad.
celticdog
Anyone who gets sick like some attention but some go over board. Some people like to wallow in their sickness. That wasn't my attempt at tough love, you are causing your own pain by dwelling on people and how they talk to you plus you added to it by reading other stupid responses.
And I did say he is in the anger stage and has to move passed it that could be a few years from now or when ever
One of the common misperceptions about melanoma is that it is "just another skin cancer." Far from it. Melanoma is the deadliest form of skin cancer. Most people that die from skin cancer die from melanoma. One reason it is so deadly is that it is very aggressive. In fact, melanoma is likely to kill you if not diagnosed at an early stage.
Another misperception is that melanoma just stays on the skin and it is merely a blotch or mole that should eventually be removed. Not only does melanoma leave the skin by traveling through your bloodstream, it will attack vital organs like your lungs and your brain. Once melanoma travels to other areas of your body, the traditional treatments (radiation, chemotherapy, surgery) rarely work. After it has spread (metastasizes), melanoma kills almost nine out of every 10 victims.
Cancerwarrior
I fail to see what advice you gave except "quit talking about your cancer to people".
Thanks for the advice.
Cancer is something that will affect most families at some point or another....so why are we as a society in general so lacking in skills to be able to deal with the subject and be more informed?
Cancerwarrior
But you're right, there's hardly a person in this country who does not know somebody who's a friend, family member, coworker that has had to deal with Cancer. Definately more awareness and educating people will help. I try to tell everyone that will listen that Melanoma is not just on your skin, it can go anywhere. Most people really have no idea that skin cancer can do that. I know I did'nt and ignorance of that almost killed me.
You are just taking snippets of what I said.
The funny thing is you are arguing with me but not once have you ask how I dealt with it.
I have talked to many people with different cancers because of the hours of waiting to get scanned so you can't say I am ignorant.
Jefferton
Don't talk to people with cancer..
Gotcha.