reply to post by OpinionatedB
Oh wow. Sometimes you people put me and my whiny ass to shame.
I feel sorry about your daughters condition, and believe me I have been in the hospital once for about a week, even had to go to the bathroom when
they put a pale under me while in the bed for days, or the whole peeing through a tube which was completely unnecessary, as I told the nurse, but
what the hell. It's a not very fun experience, they said I had a stroke or heart attack, or something, my heart supposedly swelled up in size
even, I could feel it even in my chest. Was a possibility of maybe dying, or on drugs for a long while...yada yada yada. Sometimes doctors are a
very superstitious bunch.
Though I think I lost like 15 pounds in 1 week, could not even eat or drink for a few days, and once they said my lungs were filling up with fluid
as my heart was failing and wanted to do surgery to install something in there, they even had the table prepped and everything and were waiting for my
signature. But I did not want to go through with it. And ya I had trouble breathing there for a day, though the oxygen mask helped a lot.
Anyways to make things short. Here I am now.... For now at least.
We all have to go someday eventually I suppose.
I am not very religious. And I dont have any kids, I am also not going to say that I know what you are going through. But I do have an inkling of
something of it, and its not a very good place to be at, though live is funny sometimes, and I think you looking at it from the outside in on her. In
many ways it may be more harder for you then her, usually when your in those situations its a sort of surreal feeling it does make you numb, and deaf
to things, if you think your going to die. Your daughter however just being just 23 is way to young to be on her death bed. But life comes at you
sometimes in unsuspecting ways, "in fact it does that pretty dam often" and believe you me, I know that sometimes there is nothing you can do about
However 1 year is still a long ways to go, she seems like in real bad and crappy condition what without even being able to drink or digest food. But
I would not say to treat the whole situation, or think of her as dead just yet. And different people and different minds and bodies react
differently to different methods of healing, just as different things would trip them up in life. For instance when it comes to certain things I am
practically immune, but others would lay me low for months brooding and miserable itching to bite at people at the slightest inclinations, for long
periods of time, and it could be vice versa for others.
Its pretty much the same with healing, nothing is a given, what works may just only work for you, and even then it may only work for you at a certain
time and place. So I would not completely rule out alternative treatments for your daughter just yet, and you could even do some of them for on the
cheap, some can come literally at your local store departments. If anything its worth a try, and people have given you some links, if its within your
reach why not try them. And from there its nothing but trial and error, ie what works and what does not. If anything its worth a try.
But like you implied, and sometimes if its your time to go, and there is literally nothing you can do about it. As I said, not religious in the least.
But I wish you, your family and your daughter the best of luck in all that, and she may just ultimately be in a better place if it comes to that.