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DocHolidaze
reply to post by sonnny1
I did the same thing with 2 kids and it took me 5 years to get out, best of luck to u brother.
Well said. When companies merge and things change from the *this is how we always did it before* some take it personal. HR is a joke. They are not going to support the average worker. You are a human resource and that is it.
AthlonSavage
reply to post by SPYvsSPY
Its a sad situation that power corrupts everyone. These people who went over edge should of just left and looked for other work. I remember reading recently a psychological profile of control freak managers, that their psychological profile is very similar to socio path psyhco paths. I used to work for a guy who displayed a socio path psyhco personality. It is a concern as I wonder how many of these people are in positions of authority playing their games at the expense of other peoples health, just so they can get their weekly power dose trip.edit on 11-10-2013 by AthlonSavage because: (no reason given)
DocHolidaze
reply to post by sonnny1
if you read my earlier post in this thread i didn't quit I just gave them a reason to fire me
Wrong, start at the beginning, read and then listen to the video.
boncho
Odd how all the victims of bullying simply want us to take it in without getting all the facts. Manipulative if you ask me.
I'm not asking anyone for anything. Also I don't need to lie to anyone. The guys in the suits have figured this all out. Who are you? If you say far to often people are claiming to be bullied you must know a few.
boncho
reply to post by SPYvsSPY
Wrong, start at the beginning, read and then listen to the video.
Listen, you claim to be a victim of bullying in your copy repair job, what have you, you leave us with this ominous message and a stupid cartoon about bullying.
How about, if you are going to share, actually share with everyone. You want to speak about bullying, then describe everything as it happened, your side and theirs. Let the forum (reader) judge whether or not you were actually bullied.
Don't make people take your word for it. That's not fair to them. If you are asking people for their input on an issue they should have all the facts to make a judgement to form their own opinions.
Far too often, people simply state they were bullied. But we don't get specific details. Why?
If you are bringing it up then you are sharing, so share the entire story. Let's hear exactly what happened. Perhaps we don't see this as an issue at all, perhaps it isn't at all bullying, but you should let people decide that for themselves, not have to take your word for it.
Odd how all the victims of bullying simply want us to take it in without getting all the facts. Manipulative if you ask me.
I'm not asking anyone for anything. Also I don't need to lie to anyone. The guys in the suits have figured this all out. Who are you? If you say far to often people are claiming to be bullied you must know a few.
Myself nor a couple dozen others still work for this co. 4yrs now for me. I put in my 20. Some people just don't pay attention to detail or observe what is happening. This is a global co. with thousands of employees. I was caught in a small regional takeover. I was never written up nor was ANYONE else, no paper trail nothing happened. Just ask US.
sonnny1
boncho
Odd how all the victims of bullying simply want us to take it in without getting all the facts. Manipulative if you ask me.
Come now B.
Obviously the guy is having a hard time at his Job. I can sympathize with it.
If he doesn't want to share those facts, we shouldn't force him to nor should we lambast him because of it.
Manipulating him with guilt to do it isn't cool.
As for the bulling, This thread was right on time for me. I have had a bad week at work. I took off today cause im sick of the stupidity.
In 17 years I never was written up for anything. Model employee.In a matter of 6 months, 3 times. Bullying does happen.
Dude the chain of command did not work. I have been told that I'm so honest it hurts. You seem young.
boncho
reply to post by Asktheanimals
That's too ambiguous to formulate a proper reply and you know that. Like I said, i mentor two people, we have been through all sorts of sordid issues with interpersonal relationships in their professions and the two have them have done just fine, maintain management positions currently and are well respected in their workplace.
Every situation is different.
If you want one simple rule though, as I said, it is: speak up, address issues as they arise, don't let things fester. Speak directly and force communication out of the opposing party, most importantly, stand up for yourself.
Yes there are instances where certain things need to be ignored, but if I was simply giving general advice that would be it. As you can't do much better without specifics.
Take into account you all are posing problems that you let develop over long periods of time, obviously, by your own admissions.
And I don't see anyone admitting to any character flaws of their own, so there is no responsibility at all being taken. I can tell you that my flaw is that I am blunt as hell and though I rub people the wrong way very early on once they learn the things that keep me from busting ass, they all develop good relationships with me, and that is real simple, do the job, don't slack, don't make excuses. But in my position I am owner/operator, so it's different for everyone.edit on 11-10-2013 by boncho because: (no reason given)