Hi there,
You might have heard about the vicious circle, or might even be stuck in one.
vicious circle
n.
1. A situation in which the apparent solution of one problem in a chain of circumstances creates a new problem and increases the difficulty of solving
the original problem. Also called vicious cycle.
2. A condition in which a disorder or disease gives rise to another that subsequently affects the first.
My personal definition: An action or situation (or pattern of thought/mentality) which you know is bad for your mental and physical wellbeing, but for
some reason or another, you keep repeating, either by weakness and/or by not knowing which steps to take to break free. Sometimes also accompanied by
a hope that things will better themselves 'magically'.
And when sometimes you think that you are making progress, and when you start feeling better about it, you relax and fall back, therefore having to
start all over again.
This leads to depression and angst.
I've been suffering it all my life, and it's something that everyone, as human beings, suffers from. Some maybe just have a better understanding of
it and don't let it ruin their lives as much.
ie, I want to break free from:
-eating too much/too unhealthily
-smoking
-drinking
-getting myself into unhealthy relationships, romantically or socially
-jobs in which I have no interest in, don't fulfil my ambitions
-being too physically lazy
-thinking I have no real power over my fate/the future/the world
-'add yours here'
Is it down to genetics, mental capabilities, is it something you can actually train yourself into changing, or are some people just stuck with it?
I know I've been trying for years to change certain thought patterns, change the way I react to situations or problems that arise.
And although I think I might be veeery slowly changing, there are times when all that I have achieved is forgotten and I fall back.
It's like this duality in which at times I can see everything clearly and can actually control myself and do what I know is right, but the next day
or even just a few moments later, this other weaker me takes over, which says, "ok you've done enough for today, lets give it a break", or "whats
the point, you are never going to reach the goal anyway"
This has given way to health problems, and sometimes mental instability.
Nothing new, I know, this kind of problem has probably been discussed many times before.
But who of you has broken the cycle and can look back and say, I'm free!
What have you done to break the nasty habits and cruel thought patterns?
Do you think there are people who are more predisposed to being subject to these patterns, or contrarily, that are more capable of dealing with them?