posted on Oct, 5 2013 @ 04:59 PM
Yeah, I know....sick of the gay threads almost as much as GZ threads. But something I want to share with you as an epiphany as it regards choosing
The debate about sexuality runs the gamut from its morality, to why people engage in various practices. As it regards morality, nothing can really be
determined due to the wholly subjective nature of what morality is. We each develop our own views based on our own experiences and choices.
Essentially, morality is "What Would I Do", as you then judge everyone else based on that standard (people will rarely admit to their own evils,
choosing instead of rationalize them).
But much has been said about whether or not someone chooses to be gay. I see it on these boards all the time, usually from some random poster with
very few posts to their names. But not always.
I think something important is overlooked in that debate, however: that we tend to believe others capable of the same things we are. It is what I
stated above: the world is judged by your own standard, determined by your own experiences and your own context.
As a heterosexual male, I do not see homosexuality as a choice. Sex is a performance issue with men, and I just would not be able to perform. It
would be like an anti-arousal for me. So homosexual sex is not a choice for me, personally, as I am physically incapable of it. This life's
experience has made me believe that homosexuality is something you are born with, or at the very least have ingrained on you psychologically. It is a
state that is part and parcel to your being, as you typically cannot control what arouses you (i am not denying the psychological impacts of learned
behaviors and associations....but that is part of what makes you who you are, so there is no need to deny it).
So what of people who believe that it is a choice? What, in their own personal contexts, would make them believe that people can choose to be aroused
by the same sex? It would never occur to me that someone might be able to control what arouses them without extensive psychological training. Nor
would it occur to me that one could choose whether or not the same sex is arousing.
I think you see where this is going.....and it is absolutely not a slur on anyone (being gay is not an insult). However, I would suspect that many
who claim that homosexuality is a choice, when faced with this quandry, would react quite aggressively.
And to be honest, I understand that. For someone who campaigns about the moral depravity of the homosexual, as well as the choice that homosexuals
make because of this depravity....admitting that your own homosexual feelings provide the life's experience and context for your beliefs would be
very difficult. But because you are able to wrestle your own demons and abstain from homosexual expression, you expect others to do the same. To
live up to your own moral achievement.
Just like the guy who loses 200lbs, and then calls everyone "fat". I mean hey, if he can do it, why can't everyone else?