reply to post by TiM3LoRd
The experiment did take place just not in the usual context; the same effect took place just not in the video conditions, it was just rewritten
naming the object and settings more defined to make a point when it showed up in business literature; never the less, it does show the same behavoir
the origional experiment did: wiki.answers.com...
I personally have always felt apart from peers, and basically everyone else I have ever encountered; it's not that I wasn't accepted, I have had
many healthy relationships as well as dysfunctional ones. I just never shared the same enthusiasm for what could be termed banal pursuits. Trend
chasing was a head scratcher, first day on the school bus in the 4th grade a kid asked me what kind of jeans I had on... I didn't know, looked and
said Wrangler why? He said because "Levis are cool." I said "Ok?..." to me they were just pants no different than any other pants in function. Of
course many years later; it was determined that I was a very high functioning autistic... whatever that means, still the same thing as pants comment
in the 4th grade as far as I was concerned... a good excuse for being different if I needed one I guess? Labels only change perceptions based on what
someone thinks of them; the sun doesn't change or cease functioning, if we call it a moon or even spareribs.
But it seems people like to identify with something, be it a labeled genetic variance, mental illness, belief group, lifestyle or whatever. I could
have been labeled vegetarian for over a decade, but it wasn't on the count of animals... I just got tired of eating meat. Then after 10 years or so I
got tired of lettuce, rice and pasta to the point where I could barely look at it years after resuming meat.
I suppose I feel more of an observer if I were to label myself, I study experience and the human condition, too many creative hobbies and ideas to
ever get time for them all, but that's ok all of those pursuits are for me anyway, wealth and status isn't a priority at all, but both are easily
attainable with effort.
But personally, I don't really see any difference in all the posters here; whether part of the group at one time, still part of the group, feigning
to be part of the group, or wanting to be part of the group... alienation of the world at large or better put a peep behind the veil to see the world
as it is seems to have happened, I would term this the initial enlightenment... how we handle that experience of glimpsing the world as it is, seems
to be the crux that either joins or divides humanity as that enlightenment grows and deepens, at times dipping into one extreme or another along the
How I deal with all of this thing called life; is to maintain balance tempered with tolerance and understanding in any situation I may be in at that
moment. I only change and control myself, and have no expectation of others... if I cannot live up to my own expectations for myself, it is even more
unreasonable to expect someone else to live up to expectations of them I could impose, so I simply have two relationship based ones, don't lie to me
and don't cheat on me... out of respect, they do either of those then respect is non existent, so whats the point of being in a partnership?
Otherwise as an adult my partner does whatever they feel like, and I encourage and support the goals they set for themselves. Outside a relationship
zero expectation or desire to control anyone, watching myself in that manner is a full time job, and I don't work over time.