posted on Sep, 17 2013 @ 03:33 PM
I took a break this summer from ATS to reevaluate my reason for being here. I had the same frustrations I see in this forum every day. On my break I
realized something that I wanted to share.
If you post a thread and someone doesn't agree with you or debunks you in the first response. So what. You learned something. Granted, you were
wrong, but you learned you were wrong. Suck it up and move on. Don't dwell on it.
ATS is full of many intelligent, forward thinking people. It is a great place to exchange information, pick apart what the main stream media is not
saying, and learn. No one person here (except maybe Skeptic Overlord lol) knows EVERYTHING about EVERYTHING. How boring would that be?
If someone disagrees with you, ask why? And, shame on them if they do not say why they disagree and provide proof to back up their theory. Maybe, if
you exchanged information instead of hate you could both learn something and realize you are both partially right and work together for the answer.
The answers are why we are here. We will never get to the answers until we come together. If people constantly bicker the answer gets that much
I beg of you all, the next time you make a thread or reply to one, and someone says "UMM NO"...ask WHY??? I beg of you all , the next time you say
"UM NO" to explain why.
I also challenge all of you to visit the threads you know the least about. WHY? Simple. Because that is where you will learn the most.
I spent most of my first two years on the BTS topics because I was intimidated by the big dawgs. I challenged myself to make a thread of substance
about something totally out of my comfort zone. I posted the info and then I asked " What are your thoughts". WHY? Because I knew something was
fishy and I could not put my finger on it. I knew someone else here would and so far they are doing a great job of doing just that.
You have to be open minded. You cannot come to ATS and be closed minded. You have to be open to different points of view and perspectives. We are from
all over the world. Our cultures are different.
I think people forget we are all very different.
I also challenge you all to do one more thing...The next time you get heated about something on a thread...try not to personalize it. Before you hit
that reply button, step away. Step away for 5 minutes, 15 minutes, how ever long it takes, and then when you can formulate a response in a manner as
not to be argumentative, reply. But, only then. I have hit reply more than once, read it, then trashed it because the tone sounded argumentative and
that is not truly what I intended.
I think sometimes, we get carried away with our own egos and forget we are a society of free thinkers. That is why we are here. So accept your fellow
ATS members when they do not agree with you. Do not take it personally. Ask questions, especially of those who disagree with you, for it is there that
you will find the answers either by proving them right or proving them wrong, either way you will find the answer.
We must work together. We must come together. We are the few free thinkers left in this world.
We are alike in more ways than we are different. We have so much knowledge to share. LETS SHARE IT!
One more thing...please take other people's threads seriously. Do not belittle someone or make them feel crazy for something they posted. If it
sounds crazy it took a lot of courage to post it in the first place. If you do not agree and cannot say something nice...do not say anything at all.
If you can debunk it, do it kindly.
I do not know how it is said in other cultures but in the US I grew up with "DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU". If you do not know,
it means, treat others the way you want to be treated.