posted on Sep, 1 2013 @ 02:09 PM
My fifteen year old daughter had sex with her boy friend...maybe 4-5 times and then be broke up with her. I really never expected this would happen
to me as a father. She is very smart, somewhat conservative and we had all the talks about waiting and I trusted her to do just that. Last night she
told me about her having sex with her boy friend and that they broke up. I feel heartbroken and also as if I failed her.
I really thought she was listening to me. I may have made some mistakes along the way. I told her I would love her no matter what which in
retrospect almost seems like condoning what she did. I also gave her condoms just in case for her and her friends. I didn't expect for her to use
them (although I found out she did which is a good thing). I did these things to be realistic. I did these things because I love her. Now I wonder
if I didn't make it easy for her.
When she told me I think I must have turned white as a ghost. I didn't react. I wanted to be 'cool' about it. I felt good that she had trust in me
to tell me even at the same time I was really disappointed in her. I knew enough not to judge. She told me it was a 'logical' choice for her because
she really loves/loved this guy and she didn't want to end up doing it with someone later in life that she didn't care for like she did him.
I actually like this guy. He is smart and is probably going places, but like most 15 year old boys he rally wasn't ready for a relationship. He used
my daughter and then discarded her. I really feel like crap because I warned her of this very thing. She is a smart girl...I just don't understand
Anyway, I needed to vent a little and share. She hasn't told my wife so I can't talk to my wife about this. My daughter trusted me and told me to
tell no one. Only her two best friends know other than me.
What say you ATS? This community is a lot like a surrogate family to me. I am confused. Angry. Proud? I am not sure. Lots of emotions. I am
trying to process all of this right now. Your thoughts would be appreciated.
edit on 2013/9/1 by Metallicus because: Spelling Error