Person 1 = less self-centered
Person 2 = extremely self-centered
[NOTE: I am not talking about doing these things sometimes, but only if they do this constantly.]
[Second NOTE: Again, most people aren't getting it. These things are CLUES, if it constantly happens that is a sign]
1) They continuously bring up their own experiences to relate to the topic.
Person 1: "It is better to forgive then to hold on to hatred."
Person 2: "It's better to just forgive because when I had that fight with James it just made things worse."
2) They give their opinion when it isn't need.
Person 1: "Religion allows us to see into the mind of ancient society."
Person 2: "Religion allows us to see into the mind of ancient society, but eww I hate that word."
3) They use the words "my" a lot instead of "the".
Person 1: "I want to use the computer."
Person 2: "I want to use my computer."
Person 1: "I want to get those new Jorden sneakers"
Person 2: "I want to get me my pair of Jorden's sneakers."
2) They only care about their point of view.
Person 1: "Your anger winded up embarrassing everyone we was with."
Person 2: "You made a scene and was embarrassing me (not considering others)."
3) They are very controlling [ 3 main forms mentioned]
(Trying to force others to be like them)
Person 1: "It's not healthy to think so negatively, but of course we all have a choice."
Person 2: "You need to stop that and think more positive, you are always being so negative!"
Person 1: "I don't like the way you speak to people so rudely, so if you don't stop I won't be around you."
Person 2: "You need to stop talking so rudely, if you don't stop - I'll make you stop."
(Calling people names)
Person 1: "It's ok if you don't want to do what I say, I understand."
Person 2: " You are so selfish and lazy for not doing whatever I ask you to do."
4) They think that they are better than everyone else, but give false humility.
Person 1: "If you continue to do this, eventually you will bring yourself into a world of drama."
Person 2: "I'm not perfect, but my way is better than your way - you need to stop that and be like me."
Person 1: "We obviously disagree, but if you want to debate it, that is fine."
Person 2: "Your point of you is irrelevant you are just a sheep, brain-washed, or deceived by the devil."
EDIT: Two more clues that hints at extreme self-centeredness
4) Making assumptions (especially if that assumption is just to get attention or argument)
Extermely self-centered person:
"There is nothing wrong with having ego and knowing the difference and boundaries between "me" and "you", we need it to survive"
The actual theme of the thread:
"How to know if someone is EXTREMELY
Nothing to do with Ego being "good" or "Evil". Nothing to do with getting rid of the Ego completely. All of this is an assumption to argue - to argue
against something that wasn't even said.
5) Conformity - Doing what everyone else does out of fear of being "criticized"
"It really doesn't matter what they think, everyone has their own opinions."
extremely self-centered person:
"I need to do this and that, I don't want people talking about ME."
edit on 1-9-2013 by arpgme because: (no reason given)