This could be a fun conversation.
'Always be nice'. Pretty basic stuff, right? Most of us are taught that as children. We have to get along with others and the way to do that is to
always be nice. Be polite. Turn the other cheek. Defuse a difficult situation by being mature and allowing insults to roll off your back like water
off a duck. Teach others who aren't being nice by being a good and positive example. etc etc
So ... should people always be nice ... no matter what?
Or ... does it sometimes happen that 'always be nice' should end and something else begin?
Some quotes (pro and con) on 'always be nice' from the Christians, Buddhists, and Hindus ...
Romans 12:18: “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
Matthew 5:39 (Jesus says) "You have heard it said 'an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth', but I say to you do not resist an evil person; but
whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn and offer him the other also. If anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, give him your coat also.
Buddhist Quotes on Anger, Forgiveness, and Compassion
“Hatred does not cease through hatred at any time. Hatred ceases through love. This is an unalterable law.”
“Have compassion for all beings, rich and poor alike; each has their suffering. Some suffer too much, others too little.”
“In a controversy the instant we feel anger we have already ceased striving for the truth, and have begun striving for ourselves.”
“Teach this triple truth to all: A generous heart, kind speech, and a life of service and compassion are the things which renew humanity.”
“To understand everything is to forgive everything.”
“You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.”
Hindu quote on always being nice - “Should even one's enemy arrive at the doorstep, he should be attended upon with respect. A tree does not
withdraw its cooling shade even from the one who has come to cut it.”
― Mahabharata 12.146.5
Another Hindu quote on always being nice (sort of) - “The person who is always involved in good deeds experiences incessant divine happiness. ”
-The Rig Veda
Karma and Balance - Why Being Nice Isn't Always Good
Why Being Nice Isn't Always Possible (Christian)
f you think of all relationships of having a measure of energy, what is given and received, when we are in a reciprocal energy exchange those
scales of karma are balanced. Yet, sometimes when we are being “nice” instead of standing up for ourselves, or asserting our right to be treated
better, or walking away from people who mistreat us, then we can be tipping those karmic scales. We will keep attracting situations towards us to help
us correct that balance until it is righted. You might want to look at any uncomfortable situation in your life that you seem to attract over and over
again, and see if there is a lesson there about reciprocal energy exchange. You can evaluate whether you are giving too much or too little in that
circumstance relative to the outcome, and make appropriate adjustments.
When Being Nice Isn't Good - Education Week Magazine
The Bible doesn’t ever use the word nice to describe our behavior — not once. Instead, we are given the instruction to be kind, compassionate
and forgiving (Ephesians 4:32). We’re also told to do our best to “live at peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18). As we talked about yesterday,
the word nice means pleasing and agreeable, and the truth is that it’s not always possible to be pleasing and agreeable. Too often, though, we lead
our kids to believe that it is.
Teachers, confronted with the responsibility of keeping peace in a classroom, generally construct a set of norms and rules to ensure a civil,
considerate, fair-minded, and orderly social environment. Many of the rules are summed up by what young children call "being nice": helping, sharing,
taking turns; avoiding "being mean": fighting, bullying, and saying, "You can't play." The moral premise supporting such norms and rules is that all
children, equally, deserve to flourish at school, that one child should not flourish at the expense of another, and that flourishing is compromised
when children's feelings are hurt. It is this code of being nice and not hurting that I wish to explore.
Being nice means to be 'pleasing and agreeable'. Is that always possible?
Common sense says no. But the major religions of the world say we should be. Right?
How to be 'pleasing and agreeable' towards those who are destructive and/or violent in their errors?
That's a really good question. Can we be? Should we be? How long should we be before
we need to slap the wayward person/entity/country silly? Or do we just walk away?
That's not always possible. etc etc??
Anyways, I thought this would be a good conversation for the Philosophy forum.
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