Originally posted by TimelessWatch00
reply to post by tetra50
You either Love her or you Hate her, hate is a strong word to apply to her if you truelly Love her? People can forgive others and should, but that
doesn't mean going back around people who only want to hurt you. Forgiveness is for ones own benefit it takes the hate away from your heart,
hatefulness is a heavy burden to carry. Just my opinion...... We have way to much Hate in this world
First, thanks for reading and replying. However, I think you have misunderstood quite a bit of what I wrote here:
I've spent some time recently with someone I have a love/hate relationship with, for, perhaps, eons, if you believe and ascribe to reincarnation and
circular time dilation. Having said that, I have this theory, after all that time and memory, that there is a time to embrace your enemy, for he/she
may be the only one who truly knows you, even as he/she strives to defeat you. And there is a time where the only choice left, is to accept this
person is the one with the power, and your only way forward is to accept that, embrace your enemy, and love despite everything. And I truly mean here,
To begin with, I am a woman, talking about a relationship with a man I have been involved with on and off for who even knows how long. What prompted
the thread was an argument we had last night about my "choices" on certain jobs....choosing my high ground, over the money......
That's one feature to it, and I explain it in order to better express why that part was even included. That's just where my mind was then: I was
both trying to understand my relationship with someone who seems to not always be on my side, nor good for me, critical, and then going a step further
with what I was expressing to him in this argument in my choices, which may not have led to "success" in the usual perception of it, but what I had
to do to hold onto my personal character over the money/contract vs. time spent working. In the end, it didn't work well for me, because I got used
up working that hard. But I'd do that over again, because of what I went on to describe as my passion for life.
Now, as to your questions about do i love this person or hate them. This is a complex thing between people, often. Obviously, I don't hate him at
all. At times, I feel he does me, and that he is, in fact, my enemy......here to defeat me, or should I look at it that he is here to make me
stronger, and help me define within myself who I am and my value, by my own estimation. You understand, now, I hope, how complicated such a
relationship can be?
No, most should never return to one who hurts you. But sometimes we are karmically and quantumly entangled beyond our own choices and control. I
cannot get into that so much here.....as that is information that is quite personal, and a story that this is not the place for. Trust me that I am
frequently judged for our continued association, but it is an association I cannot escape.
Have you ever seen the movie: Between Heaven and Earth, I think it was called, with Tommy Lee Jones and an Asian actress? He was in Viet Nam, met
her as a local, married her and brought her to the US. He declined over the years, PTSD from the war, alcoholism, was abusive to her, through 20 yrs.
of marriage and four children.
She started a business and was successful through perserverence and hard work, and finally divorced him when the children were grown, doing very well
for herself. She goes back home to visit her aging parents in Viet Nam, and the "priest" at the Buddhist Temple where she was raised, questioned
her about leaving this man. For, he said, there is much between Heaven and Earth we do not comprehend in this one life, but will only live to repeat
it again if we do not resolve it with those we love and have problems with, here and now.
This is an example of what I mean here......the complexity of these entanglements....and how we can walk away, but perhaps not for long, either in
this life or the next, until it is truly resolved, whomever needs to do the forgiving
and get on with the loving and accepting.
I hope I've made some sense to your questions here.
Thanks for your reply.