posted on Aug, 5 2013 @ 08:54 PM
reply to post by ColoradoJens
The divorce laws in this country have to change. My sister wants to get a divorce from her husband who is an alcoholic and never wanted to work. Her
2 kids have been pleading for her to divorce him for years. He lost his job and is now working a measly job just to support his daily drinking habit.
My sister was always the bread winner in the family, paid for the mortgage, car insurance and other major expenses. He just paid for the utilities.
Their house had depreciated by half the value because of the housing market. He never helped out around the house. In jest, my sister always said
she would have made someone a good a husband, considering she did all the repairs around the house in addition to the housework. The guy is extremely
lazy, and never lifted a finger to help take care of their house. I swear he wouldn't even know how to use a screw driver if you put it in his hand.
She now is trying to put her daughter through college, and is really getting stressed out because she doesn't have the money for the divorce. The
attorneys say her husband is entitled to half of her pension and alimony! This guy is perfectly capable of working and supporting himself. He has a
small pension from the job he lost. Why should a spouse have to support someone who is clearly capable of working and supporting himself? It's not
my sister's fault that he settled for a low paying job, even though he graduated from college.
I can understand splitting the house and possessions and even if they had joint accounts and investments. I can't understand however, how courts can
justify taking half of the other person's pension in which they personally worked for. Not only that, my sister would be responsible for paying all
court costs. I can see how some people can get really stressed out going through a divorce.
It sounds like your ex doesn't want a husband, she's just interested in finding someone who can supply her with the material things in life. It's
sad that the courts can't recognize that each spouse worked to gain their particular status in their chosen field. To say the lesser of the two
should reap that benefit is just plain wrong.