So, what I had hoped to be a discussion about the possibility that more often than not we interpret attraction on any level as a sexual one, and that
we are expected to react to this attraction in a sexual way, because of exposure to various things (including an over abundance of sexually laced
media) has turned into something else.
It's sad, but has made it very clear that people are ready to assume and judge (and in some cases interject "fact") that suggest that I have some
higher sense of self worth or some underlying motive other than to discuss this phenomenon.
Let me make it clear:
I have no need for people to find me attractive, sexually or otherwise. There is only one person who's opinion of me matters. That person loves me on
many levels, and their compliments on my appearance are generally only a validation that our relationship is strong and healthy. I have spent nearly
half a century on this planet, and my appearance is "in decline" from what most would consider attractive. The idea that "I grow more beautiful every
day" (my partner's words) only attests to the idea that our relationship is far from being based on superficial things like physical appearance.
The assumption that I consider myself more evolved (on any level be it sexual or spiritual) than others is not only false, but insulting. I never said
that I felt that way about myself, only that others
described me in that manner.
I do not need validation that I am "special" because I do not consider myself any more or less anything than anyone else and actually find it quite
baffling when others describe me as such.
If you feel the need to detract from the thread by interjecting the idea that I need some sort of validation, or find the need to insult my
intelligence by insinuating that I am some sort of "typical egotistical female", please don't. I really would like to expend my energy discussing the
phenomenon on a intellectual level, not fending off personal attacks.
I found this picture:
"Innocent love" or "pure love" seems to be very attractive, and I find that it is most easily expressed by children, who lack experience in being
judgmental, biological drive (due to lack of pheromone production), and have not quite developed a sense of what is accepted as physically attractive.
I think that as we grow older we lose the ability to differentiate the different layers of attraction (physical, spiritual. meta-physical, biological
and/or sexual, etc) and lump it all under the heading of "sexual attraction".
"I'm feeling a spiritual attraction to you" sounds like a cheesy pickup line and if stated by someone approaching you on the street would put off or
scare most people.
However, expressing some sort of sexual or physical attraction toward another seems to be far more acceptable.
Personally, I have never seen sex as the predicating factor in attraction, only a byproduct of it (if you are lucky) It may be that it is because of
this personal viewpoint, I find the entire phenomenon curious and interested in other people's take on it.
I often wonder, as adults, if the expectation of acting on any form of attraction in a sexualized manner is what clouds our understanding of what
really drives the attraction in the first place. It seems that there is a tendency by modern society to sexualize even the most innocent of actions or
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