reply to post by woodwardjnr
I lived in England for 2 years, and this was my observation as well. People do self medicate, and when I told them I was on anti depressants, they
found it odd. Of course, drinking and other forms of self medication are more socially acceptable over there, and most people do not hold it against
you, or think you diseased, if you drink heavy. So I did as the Romans did and self medicated to the fullest of my abilities. To be honest, I don't
see it as any worse than having to take meds. It certainly was more effective, I'll say that much. And not any more harmful. Anti depressants can do
as much damage as being an alcoholic or drug user. People were certainly more understanding about it then they are in the US.
It is ironic. In America, there is constant pressure to push yourself, to be happy, successful, awesome. If you aren't constantly pushing yourself
towards some goal, you are a slacker. Perfection is a religion. An unforgiving one. One must be beautiful. And accomplished. Or be forever striving
towards it. If you are not, you are a loser, or "average" which is unforgivable. And gods help you if you should show any signs of weakness.
Drinking, doing drugs, or seeking therapy mark you as some sort of waste or freak. Makes you weak. Makes you a lesser person. You become ostracized.
Inferior. Yet despite this, we are a nation with a high number of alcoholics, drug addicts, and neurotics in therapy, much of this hidden lest people
look down at us. When we are stressed or at breaking point, we are told "go get therapy", and then abandoned or shunned as being broken. It really
is a neurotic society.
Much of it has to do with our society. The isolation from families and communities. The unrealistic pressure to hold onto optimism, to always be
happy, be positive,...be anything but a real human being. Families and friends are unwilling or uninterested in helping one another out in crisis, at
least in any meaningful way, and instead, push their hurting "loved one" off on some therapist and expect them and meds to fix them so they are
magically "normal" again. And refuse to accept failure.
I have been suffering from severe, chronic depression for 25 years. Meds. Therapy. All useless. How can someone get "healthy" or "fixed" in a
sick, broken, neurotic society?
It boggles the mind. My time overseas really has shown me this is a uniquely American phenomenon. While there were certainly social ills and seriously
undesirable cultural traits and failings in other countries I lived in, the level of social neuroticism here in America is really our own unique