Ok now that the thread has run it's course I would like to interject something for thought.
It appears that there is a breakdown, but what I am seeing is that relationships, marriage, or constraints of what we know to be relationships,
between man and woman, are not working these days. And the ones that are, seem to be short lived, or stagnate at a certain point.
People will swear up and down that they have a wonderful relationship, and this maybe true, but what happens when the relationships stagnates, or
atrophies and one party decides to move on? Is this good, or bad.
The way we view relationships is possessive, meaning we feel entitled to the other person, and they us, but when one person decides they have had
enough of the relationship, all hell breaks lose.
What if we became a society that understood when the other person wanted to move on, that everyone could still work together in the capacity of
friends, and still respect each other?
I'm would wager most people could not achieve this, because their Egos get so bruised when the relationship ends, that many times the only thing left
is bad stuff. Bad ending suck because something beautiful brought two people together, and they shared wonderful times, and emotions together, only
to hate each other, in the end.
The current way we break ties is painful, and who the heck wants more pain and suffering in their lives. ( Hence "Men On Strike" )
We are taught, let me repeat that "WE ARE TAUGHT" that we need own each other, in the relationship and at the end to scuttle the ship, in order to
move on, and lay blame on the other party, but what this does is cause a ripple effect in the world.
A ripple is not much, but if you get lots of ripples all at the same time eventually large waves happen.
If people meaning men and women could take the time and step out of themselves for just a few emotional moments, and see that they create their own
chaos and happiness, then maybe they would start choosing a different approach.
What if we didn't react to people acting childish, or immature? Because actually we really don't need to react act all.
What if we just took our time before we decided to possess someone else?, because that is exactly what it is by our societies standards. People think
they own each other to certain degrees.
Our immediate responses will be "Oh Hell No! they Don't Own Me" , but when people are in a relationship they sure act like they do.
Our essences as human beings with large ego's may want to own and possess, but our spiritual self meaning the higher self knows better.
We want to be free and we want to be happy.
edit on 2-8-2013 by Realtruth because: (no reason given)