reply to post by werewolf99
I like the gist of this OP because one thing I know for a fact is that mindlessness can cause as much damage as intentional harm.Of course when that
lack of forethought has been put into helping others then a percentage of that help is bound to be beneficial,some will be less so.
Such random,not targeted help probably won't be the downfall of society or rip apart the fabric of our modern world but in this world where
everything has to be analysed,subject to time and motion studies where efficiency is paramount.There wiill be do~gooders out there who could be
applying their generousity of spirit in am much more cost effective manner.lol
The thing is how do you decide who is worthy of help and who isn't.Who makes the decision,on what basis because if you start defining the type of
people who can and can't be helped then it starts to become institutional,Then it's not help but soon becomes an entitlement which is a completely
I tend to think what really matters is that the person being helped genuinely needed help and the spirit the help was offered in.Many,many do-gooders
help others because of how they think it reflects on themselves of makes them feel about themselves.
I always remember the mother of someone I knew that ran a homeless shelter for her church,feeding them and giving them a place to rest and warm up for
a while.She barely concealed the disgust and smugness that radiated from her.Disgust at the low-life it was her cross to bear mixed in with a dose of
smugness in the knowledge she was so much better and more worthy than they,The majority of her self-satisfaction came from her firm conviction that
god beamed down on her for the work she with the dregs of society,,her place in heaven was assured and you could almost sense that she believed she'd
worked damn hard to buy her spot with the almighty.
To me that kind of help,although it may give some immediate benefit to an old alkie down n out and probably doesn't constitute mindless it's
certainly soulless or even heartless.Help should be given freely with no expectation of getting a personal return for it (in this life or the
next.lol).That is coming from someone who has no religion or belief in or time for god
Of course,where the OP is hitting the nail on the head is where somebody,good intentioned or not,helps somebody who can and should be helping
themselves.There's too much expectation and sense of society owing something these days and less and less importance placed on personal
responsibility.When somebody is forever helping,doing and picking up after people who are perfectly capable of looking after their own life they are
definitely NOT helping that person out.Sometimes the safety net,the stabiiser bars need to be removed and people left to take responsibility for