posted on Jul, 24 2013 @ 02:40 PM
reply to post by Krazysh0t
The most obvious of effects of racism are felt by the individual though. While the racism itself has little to do with the individual and is a
dislike for the entire race in particular (generally based on misinformed stereotyping), it is definitely individual felt. We lived out there for 7
years and the racism that we experienced, while perpetrated by a handful of people, was significant enough to alter the way that we perceive
ourselves. My son deliberately avoids his hair lightning in the summer to keep it "dark" because he prefers it that way and I still on occasion see
myself as an alien when I look in the mirror because of my fair hair and green eyes. Both of us have this strange coveting of the way that my
daughter looks, who is half Nat Am. We'd rather have the brown hair and dark eyes. Neither of us felt that way before we lived on the rez. Only
after. In a way, it's kind of like the doll test where the little black child was given the choice of two dolls--one black, one white--and asked
which one she'd prefer to be. She picked the white doll. It's a weird little phenomena that my son and I discuss from time to time. We basically
formed an aversion to our coloring and it shattered our self images. It's even more ironic because we are a very good looking family. It's weird
and kinda sad. I imagine this is what that little black girl felt in the doll test. While racism targets an entire race, the most dramatic effects
are, without a doubt, on the individual.
In regards to no one speaking out about when it occurs with whites, I have to agree somewhat but I also condition in it a little bit. People rarely
stand up to bullies of any cloth in defense of another. While the attacks my son suffered at school were somewhat dealt with by school officials, my
son was really forced to adapt. I'll never forget the afternoon that I was at the school helping prepare for a school function and my son and a
handful of Nat Am children were playing hide and seek in the gymnasium. One little native boy was refusing to come out and my son called out
"Charles, you better come out or else you're going to turn into a bilagaana!!". Bilagaana means white man. The native mothers around me burst out
laughing and then it got kind of awkward as it sank into them that my son had just utterly played that little boy and the moment Charles came booking
out, it uncovered the racism that they tried so hard to hide. They said nothing and just got very quiet for the longest time. We rarely got
apologies and we learned to gauge what we construed as racism as those deliberate and malicious attacks on our persons or property. All the little
stuff, we tried to overlook including the time my daughter's great aunt told her grandmother right in front of us in regards to her son dating a
Hopi--"well, at least he didn't bring home a white girl". Ouch.
So I agree, notmuch does get said on the subject of the racism that whites may experience but I think that has more to do with a lack of frequency,
the tendency to not stand up to bullies, and the perception that only minorities can complain about it. Thing is, anybody can become a minority the
moment the majority tables are turned. I just think that society tends to focus more on the larger issues than the smaller ones but maybe I'm being
too kind all the way around.
Your CEO comment totally made me think of A&F CEO Mike Jeffries, btw, lol. He's a total cretin.