reply to post by alysha.angel
As a parent and a former teenager; I think you are not taking the responsibility of parenting seriously, nor realistically.
Fact, your daughters will look at porn, if not at home, there will be ways to find it behind your back, to get around any blockages. Teenagers are
much more adept at new technologies than older people.
Fact, if you are a good parent and teach your children morals and values, porn does not corrupt. Teach your children about love and sex. Don't make
it taboo. Don't make it a topic that needs to be hidden.
Fact, sex is a natural thing. Nearly all of us do it. You absolutely have done it in your life. Because people make a living at it, doesn't
directly mean they are morally corrupted, it also doesn't mean you have to agree or support their lifestyle or life choices; but you also have no
right to degrade or disrespect them.
While I wouldn't personally partake in that lifestyle, or would've ever been involved intentionally with anyone that does or has partaken in it
because I believe in monogamy; I also would still befriend someone in the industry, because they are our human brothers and sisters too; and if you
are religious, you have the obligation to be their friend and try to live an example of a better life, without forcing it down their throats, and
As a teenager, my mom was more uptight about the stuff, my dad was a bit more lax. I hid my search for such things from both of them. I wasn't
corrupted by finding my dad's videos (even though my mom thought they were disgusting). I was curious. I studied them and tried to understand what
was going on and why. I also had the internet spring up in my late teens, and I watched tons of the stuff.
You know what though? I still show every woman a lot of respect. I don't treat them like meat/objects. In fact, I still had a problem through out
my early 20s of idealization of women, the pedestal effect, that made it hard for any 'real' woman to live up to. I didn't see sex as a disrespect
of the woman, but an act the two people engaged in together with consent. I didn't lower my standard or ideal of what a woman was at all. I still
prefer a woman who presents herself with respect and modesty. In fact, modesty in attire is one of the most attractive things to me in the real
See, because I was intelligent. Because I had a strong foundation in early childhood. I had strong morals, and a ton of respect for others. Porn
could not corrupt me, because I had proper guidance. I didn't have any help seeing porn in my teens, nor did my parents really get into all that
stuff at all.
BUT, I think it would've been healthier for my early relationships if they had. My first sexual experiences would've been better for both me and my
woman if I had known more of what and how to do, at least a proper idea of what a woman wants and needs, their physiology; and to have seen women off
the pedestal, and my equals, with flaws and stuff to where they didn't feel like they couldn't live up to this perfection I saw in them.
What you need to realize: It is NOT the government's job to rear your children. It is not their responsibility to give them morals or
protect them from reality. It is YOUR job to rear your children. It is your responsibility to give them the guidance, understanding, respect, and
moral compass in life that they respect every individual they meet.
I'm sorry for your outlook on life. That you think viewing sex will corrupt and twist the mind. That you can't watch it with your significant
other and learn new techniques or try new things or possibly discover something one of you likes that either you couldn't communicate properly or had
no idea of in the first place. Not all porn is the stuff of extremes, some of it is extremely tastefully done. My wife and I have watched it
together. I've learned things from it in the past before we met, that my wife is very glad I did; for she had no idea it could be that good. It
directly helped both of us enjoy our time together; and to disregard that is ignorant.
Do I want my daughter watching porn before she is mentally mature ... no. Do I want her to watch the dark side of porn, NO. But, I also respect the
freedoms of human beings, and take responsibility of teaching her right and wrong. It is not the state's job. It is my cross to bear. I will show
her educational stuff. I will teach her why to wait, and when it should be appropriate to start. I will instill the morals ... restricting access
is not teaching morals.
One last point. Why don't you ask the porn stars if they feel exploited or degraded? What if they love sex, and enjoy getting paid for it in a
controlled, safe environment?
What if they only do it with their husband/wife? There are quite a few like that. What if it is instructional?