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Originally posted by intrepid
OK, I've got a LOAD of experience on this issue. Ditch the hate. It's baggage, your own and you can control it. Hate/anger is an emotion that demands your energy and give nothing back. I finally dealt with my family issues when I was 32 and I've been happier since ditching that crap. Go your way but remove excessive negative emotions. You'll be better off for it. Basically.... screw em.
Originally posted by schuyler
You're somebody to stay away from: damaged goods because you don't know how to relate to anyone other than how your parents taught you.
The thing is, you sound just like your parents. The rage and hatred coming off your post is abusive, just like you say your parents did to you. You can find nothing good to say about your mother, which is how you say she treated you. You can find nothing good to say about your father, mostly because he chose your mother over you.
You sound just like them. You're just perpetuating how they are, the next generation of hostility and anger. You're somebody to stay away from: damaged goods because you don't know how to relate to anyone other than how your parents taught you.
What you do not need right now is a bunch of co-dependents agreeing with you and fueling your anger so they can feel warm and cozy from the flames. People agreeing with you are not helping you. They are simply making you feel self-righteous. And that's not a good thing.
Now you can continue to feel sorry for yourself, continue ranting, and continue perpetuating the emotions of your parents, or you can take some responsibility for your own self and stop this destructive behavior.
What you need to say to yourself is: "I'm on this Earth for a reason. Maybe there is a lesson to be learned here. Damned if I know what it is right now, but I could work on that."
Wow. While we are staying away from her should we pretend that she and what happened to her doesn't exist? Unfortunately too many people think of abused children as "damaged goods".