posted on Jul, 16 2013 @ 10:48 PM
What a woman sees in a man is not always what is "in" the man. Women sometimes see the potential that is there, or the potential that is a figment
of her imagination.
What a woman wants may be different than what is good in the long run, or what she wants in the long run.
There's physical chemistry based on sheer looks, or physical chemistry combined with "something extra" that makes someone who isn't necessarily
cute or handsome or fit somehow become unforgettable and attractive (and no, I don't mean money).
And there's the attraction to someone unattainable, married, noncommittal. Either as a conscious or unconscious need for a "challenge" - or need to
really not get close to someone after all.
For me, I think that quiet confidence is nice, overt confidence comes across a bit arrogant or unnerving. Someone who treats animals well, is kind to
the waiter/waitress, can get on the floor and giggle with kids, and likes to cuddle and act goofy sometimes is attractive to me.
I also have a thing for voices. Some voices seem so attractive. Others don't. Not that there's a particular type that I could describe - it's
almost like a chemistry thing. Sort of a tad bit raspy, maybe a great Irish or Scottish accent, maybe just a warm, resounding voice.
Although I am college educated, white collar, doing well career wise I suppose, I have always preferred "non suits" -- or entrepreneurs, blue
collar, etc. I secretly like a man who can actually fix something if it breaks. A man who can change diapers, cook dinner, ride a Harley, dance a slow
dance, sit on the porch and drink a foo-foo drink one night, an ice tea another, and a cold one on the next night.
Most of all, most of us want to be loved no matter what -- make-up on, make-up off, blowing our noses, looking like a princess, snoring or looking all
cute in your old shirt. Loved, not just desired physically. Loved, not possessed. Loved, respected, liked.
It sounds hokey, but if I'm lucky enough to meet a good man one more time in my life, I hope he's my closest, dearest friend too. And he's got to
make me laugh. Having money is nice. Having none sucks. Having a sense of humor is priceless.