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Originally posted by MarioOnTheFly
reply to post by MaryStillToe
It's perfectly fine for you to say that you feel your father is racist or you've come across black people in Memphis that embraced segregation, but generalizing every black person and every black community across the country is pretty ignorant and narrow minded.
But she didn't generalize it....it's your lack of understanding what was written.
Originally posted by MaryStillToe
Originally posted by napayshni57
reply to post by ButterCookie
Being a blonde haired white woman made me feel like a poster child for hatred. I do have some really dear friends that are black. One of the first black friends I met came from the state of Washington. I asked her if it was just me or was it different down here with blacks and whites. She said she didn't understand it either. She'd never seen so much hatred like many of the blacks seem to have because of a persons skin color.
I think the perspective you offered is great and I hope I can help explain why attitudes and behavior can be at extreme opposites among different black communities.
Black people who experienced extreme hate and hostility or are still living around hateful and unwelcoming white communities have learned to hate back. At face value, they can't differentiate between nice white people and bad white people. Based on their experiences, they know that most white people from their area do not like them or want to be around them. As a person from the north, I was shocked to learn they still have segregated proms so its not hard to see they are reacting to their environment.
Do people really expect a person to let go of hate and mistrust when they are still being exposed to unfairness and lack of acceptance? It's logical to think that they should realize not all white people are bad, but perspective and fears are not easy to change.
A friend of mine knows a woman who took in foster children who were abused for about 3 years. The children's biological mother would lock them in the room for days and wouldn't give them any food. Over time, the children learned to hide food in their room so that they would have something to eat when they were locked back in again. Once they got to the foster home, they continued doing the same thing. It took the foster mom 8 years to convince all the the kids that they didn't need to hide food anymore. Despite good treatment, they held on to the mistrust, as it's a reasonable human response to negative experiences.
In the future, if you find yourself surrounded by hateful black communities, look at the history of the area and learn about the surrounding communities. I can guarantee you there is something to be found.
I would like to dare ButterCookie to be different and actually do some research on this and see if areas where her parents were raised or places like Memphis actually have some history that affects why the people feel the way they do. Also,she should offer some ideas that might help improve the situation instead of just ranting about it (there is actually a section for that here on ATS).
Prove that you are a cut above the rest by presenting information that is worthy of discussion, instead of starting these generic and one-dimensional threads.
The Four Control Dramas from the Celestine Prophecy
The Celestine Prophecy’s 4 Control Dramas
The sixth insight states that childhood dramas block our ability to fully experience the mystical. All humans, because of their upbringing, tend toward one of the four “control dramas”:
Intimidators steal energy from others by threat.
Interrogators steal it by judging and questioning.
Aloof people attract attention (and energy) to themselves by acting reserved or withdrawing.
And poor me’s make us feel guilty and responsible for them.
The above description from James Redfield’s book, The Celestine Prophecy, defines four ways that people are in relationship with one another. All are attempts to control another’s behavior. What is this need we have to control? Why do we feel it is necessary?
We attempt to control and manipulate others because we believe that if they would change their behavior we would be happy and so would they. When people do things we don’t like, or when we’re not getting our way, we think they are wrong. Then, believing we are right and they are wrong, we think that we have the right to impose our beliefs on them. What we are attempting to do is protect our beliefs. How does this play out in a relationship?
Originally posted by Lil Drummerboy
I find it funny that, here we have a person trying to put out the flame
of a historic racism,.being kind and respectful towards others and
putting forth an effort to encourage others to do the same. and yet
she is getting slammed for the very thing on this thread she has been
trying to avoid.
Originally posted by AKINOFTHEFIRSSTARS
I am disgusted and I find the thread to be absurd. Being a person that identifies with people under the misnomer of 'black' or 'african american', this is upsetting.......and it has nothing to do with zimmerman, even though anyone gunning down any youth is disdainful.......anywhoo.
I honestly do not believe you are "black" your whole post is from the position of an outsider. Judging by your comments you separated yourself along time ago.
Just by a few of your sentences I can tell that you have an erroneous view of the black community and history which can lead to confusion.
I know what its like to be different in the black community, I also know what its like to be called names, but I also recognize cause and effect. The black community didn't get that way on accident. I hate posting this same tired line but in from major street to major street there are about 2-3 liquor stores in each direction, none which have ever been black owned. That is a whole different thread, but seriously, it sounds like you haven't come to the conclusion, every bit of advancement of "difference" you have acquired or obtained should always be shared with those that may not have the opportunity to be open minded. I have so much to say about this thread but its late....
And for the record African Kings,Queens, and Nobles never sold anyone, they were tricked and also tricked into killing conflicting tribes.
Promote peace and light to all. Love to all.
1) What exactly is a Black Community?
2) Did the Africans trick themselves into selling each other to the Arabs and then the Europeans?
3) exactly how many people were killed trying to "take" said slaves from Africa if they weren't sold? I mean, there had to have been bloodshed and killing in order to invade a Continent to take slaves from. What people are going to let strangers prance right in and take take take or even, as you said, "trick". 4) How exactly did they get tricked? Where there hundreds of David Blaines amongst those dirty, dirty people? Surely they knew not to trust strangers when they couldn't trust other tribes in the same vicinity, right?
Glad to see empowered blacks who dont vote a President on the basis of skin color and dont campaign for Martin (or anyone else) on the basis of skin color. People like you are the true non-racists who hold no generational grudges and a shining example for the future of America and the World in general.
Originally posted by Skyfloating
Glad to see empowered blacks who dont vote a President on the basis of skin color and dont campaign for Martin (or anyone else) on the basis of skin color. People like you are the true non-racists who hold no generational grudges and a shining example for the future of America and the World in general.
To cram a bunch of people into the same city, they must be made to believe that they belong to the same tribe. That is called integration. Integration is a rational solution to this problem with this instinct. That same relationship can be extended to cover the world. This is not a reasoning problem. It is a problem with an instinct (tribalism), one that cannot be solved by using another instinct (compassion). That tribal instinct has been in the inner brain for at least two million years, possibly four. Only evolution can root it out. That will take a bunch of time, like perhaps millions of years. Don't think for a minute that this problem can be solved by teaching reason (tolerance). The tribal instinct was embedded in the brain first, big and strong, long before reason came.
But rather that the existent reality is a "singular human community" of confused people who erroneously label themselves into illogical categories.