As a black woman, I have faced ostracism from the black community for several reasons, most recently because I supported George Zimmerman in Martin/
Zimmerman Case. I began this thread to discuss my issues on this topic and to allow others to ask questions, or share their stories in this struggle
I guess it began childhood. I was born in the South (Memphis) but grew up in the state of Kansas, where the population was 60% white, 20% Native
American, and 10% Black, Hispanic and Asian. All my friends were white and Native American, and as children, we embraced the beauty of our different
races; it was only when my family moved back to Memphis where racism reared its ugly head. I remember going to the playground and seeing white girls
jump roping (for example), and I would stand in line to jump in, and was warmly welcomed. The black girls would pull me to the side afterwards and
"Ummm..why were you playing with them?" I would be confused and say, "Because we all wanted to jump rope."
"But they are WHITE."
"Ummm yes. I know that. What's the issue?"
They never had an answer, just stared at me in shock, because I was 'different'.
Later in life, I decided to continue my education. This was shone by lots of members of my family, as I was told I was being "white", and that my
pursuit to practice Law afterwards was me being "too good" to work at a 'regular job',
A few years ago, I quit wearing my hair in perm and I now wear it naturally in a beautiful Afro. Of course this was way outside the 'box' for lots of
black women in the south, because I was no longer conforming like the 'crowd', wearing perms and weaves.
As a English and Political Science major, I learned a lot about history, politics, and social issues, and have quit voting Democratic (a different
thread exists on this). This was another 'blow' to the black community as they saw it, as I was being 'white' for not praising President Obama.
Lastly, I came out of the non-religious 'closet'. Fortunately as a child, I was never fully indoctrinated, but pretended to believe like everyone
And now, as a result of the Zimmerman trial, my peers and family have always been aware that I supported George Zimmerman (based on the facts of the
case) and today came the backlash and attacks on me. Not physically, but very cruel verbal remarks have been texted to me all day. Mainly from my
He and I have always been very close. We both left the religious closet together, but lately I had been seeing that the pressure to rejoin the herd
has gotten to him. He now verbally attacks me and says, "You need to come back to the 'black side' and "you're crazy" because I hold firm to
independent ways and beliefs. Today after he attacked me for being happy about the Zimmerman verdict, I tried to change the subject by saying, "we
should go see a movie, Dad. Pacific Rim is out and it looks good."
He responded, "I don't hang out with Uncle Toms."
The majority of ANY racism I have ever experienced as a black woman have come form other black people. Why are we like this?
We have conceded to life-long victim-hood, and excuse making, shifting the blame on others, especially other races and I hate it.
The number one excuse for our violent behavior, low education, or high poverty rate from the Black Community is "SLAVERY"
It is absolutely absurd.
1. How do we think black slaves came to America? Do we think that Europeans just waltzed onto the African shoreline and grabbed slaves? No. African
Kings and Queens SOLD their subjects into slavery.
2. Why do we think the entire Civil Rights movement was about our skin color? It was MOSTLY about white private business owners mad at the
GOVERNMENT, not blacks, for forcing them to turn their private businesses into public ones.
and most importantly,
If slavery is the answer to all of the black community's problems, then why can't we trace these behaviors and issues all the way to the
Reconstruction Era? Seems like those problems would be detected to the generations much closer to slavery, rather than just popping up in this
Anyway, didn't mean to be long-winded. Just wanted to see some your comments and see if anyone else can relate.
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