posted on Jul, 12 2013 @ 03:58 AM
reply to post by dave_welch
Dave... I am going to give you a tip here. NEVER date someone, in order to forget someone else. It doesnt work, it never ends well, and above all its
bloody irresponsible, toward both yourself, and anyone you involve yourself with on that basis.
You shouldnt be dating because you are sick of being single either. These are classic examples of how NOT to approach the subject. The only reason to
date someone, or have any sort of relationship with anyone at all, is because something about them, as a unique entity, appeals to you in some
important way, otherwise there is no value in it. What happens if you forget that, and start dating for literaly no good reason, is you end up with a
totally hollow relationship, based on nothing, which at the very best goes no where at all, and at worst ends up damaging both participants.
It is not right to use dating as pain relief. You may as well go out and just have one night stands for all the good it will do you at the moment.
Before you start dating, you should work your previous relationship out of your system, so that it stops ruling everything you do, and negatively
affecting any positive relationships you may forge in the future. Until you have dealt with these things, it would be irresponsible for you to start
putting yourself out there.
Dont get me wrong, I have been in pain, and I know what it is like, so I say none of this lightly. But having been there, I also know that getting
involved before you have worked your issues through, will just give you more to deal with long term.
Think it through, talk to friends, learn to love yourself before you get involved with someone new.