posted on Jul, 8 2013 @ 02:34 PM
reply to post by spartacus699
Nice OP. S&F. I think a lot of people have the same problem you've described; I know I do!
I'm the exact same in that I have no problems holding my own in a conversation...but I constantly struggle with initiating
a conversation. Once
the proverbial ice has been broken, I have no problem discussing whatever topic may come up; but dang it's hard for me to initiate and break that
I find that starting with a goal to have at least 1 conversation per day with a stranger is enough to help push me out of my comfort zone. That's
really the key, I think. Even a tiny step forward each day is better than nothing. So set a daily goal, whatever that looks like for you at this point
in time, and run with it as far as you can!
I struggle with my daily goal but I do my best and I won't give up because I'm focused on the end result: a more confident, outgoing, and personable
ME. I find that after a few successful days in a row, the "momentum" I've built makes the next day much easier. However, if I miss a day it feels like
I have to start over and build that momentum up all over again. So once you've got it, keep it going!
I don't think I'm violating the Ts&Cs here (you'd think I'd know this by now...) but one book that I've found to be espeically useful is:
How to Win Friends and Influence People
by Dale Carnegie
I'm not sure if it will help you (or me) specifically with "ice-breaking" but it definitely helps when it comes to people skills in general. It's one
of my all-time favorite books and I try to re-read it at least once a year.
Anyway, great topic for your OP. I think a lot of people can find some value in it. Thanks!
edit on 8-7-2013 by Coup_Detat_Cam because:
Spelling isn't my strongest skill.