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Originally posted by badgerprints
I read the whole thing.
Lots of good advice and a little broad brushing but I think our friend Dave needs to understand a basic fact.
! Most important thing a man can know about women!
ATTRACTION is not the same thing as LOVE.
Women are attracted to masculinity, confidence, even aggression.
This is what gets their motor running.
In absence of love (or even like) attraction will take a woman back to a bad relationship more often than not.
Even if a woman likes you, if she's not attracted to you, you are pretty much out of the picture.
You are not alone. Many men fall into this situation because they don't "get It."
Women won't respond if you try to make them like you.
They won't be attracted to a nice guy.
They won't suddenly turn around and see how good you are to them.
It doesn't work that way.
Women are not attracted to nice guys.
Women are attracted to confident guys.
Women are attracted to dangerous guys.
Women are attracted to a challenge.
Women are attracted to a sense of humor.
Women are attracted to man who shows dominance.
This doesn't necessarily mean they "like" these things. Only that they are attracted to these things.
Unfortunately for nice guys everywhere, these traits are not taught in school and most nice guys have had these traits trained out of them by modern society. Most of what you see in the media and on romance shows is pure horse hockey. This doesn't mean you can't be a nice guy. It just means you need to be a more complete man.
You must look at yourself in the mirror and own up to your issues.
If you are not the guy that women are attracted too then you can change it. Or, just feel sorry for yourself.
I would avoid the self pity route. It's a waste of time and very unattractive to women.
Billions of women on the planet.
They aren't attracted to nice guys.
We all die eventually.
You do the math.
edit on 14-7-2013 by badgerprints because: (no reason given)
This doesn't mean you can't be a nice guy. It just means you need to be a more complete man.
Originally posted by dave_welch
reply to post by badgerprints
You're probably right, but I don't see where I'm not confident. I am, as far as dangerous, most people who know me know that I can out drink, out fight, out shoot, out drive, and out think most men. The only reason I may seem otherwise to you is because I'm honest. I was in the military for Christ's sake. I've been in situations a lot of people would have crapped themselves in.
I'm not trying to call you out or anything, but I think you're making a lot of incorrect assumptions about me.
Please don't take this the wrong way and get offended. But, have you ever heard the phrase "don't mistake kindness for weakness?" Most people around here don't mess with me, because they have learned that lesson, either in person or by proxy. I'm not trying to build myself up as a badass or anything, just putting the facts on the table.