This thread has been in the works for about 8 months now. Seven of those months in formulating my ideas and the last month discussing them with staff
and other members. It’s going to turn out much different than I had thought to be honest.
Originally I was going to link to an article that discussed various observations and linked source material that seemed to show Misandry was in full
swing back in 2000 when it was written. I have chosen to not use this source as the opinions contained within, mixed with the good information
don’t pain the picture I wanted to have.
So this thread will focus on my personal thoughts and hopefully open a discussion into what is Misandry, is it really prevalent in our society and has
Feminism turned into something very different from it’s original purpose.
This is not an anti-women thread, this is not a misogynist talking and the biggest reason I’ve never discussed this before is because of the very
real backlash I’ve received in real life for speaking my mind or asking questions on these issues.
What is Misandry?
The most basic definition of Misandry is a socio-political mindset that encourages the hatred of men and the creation of what some would call
Matriarchal society. It is the firm belief that all men are bad and that a women’s view point is the end all, be all of answers.
It is the complete opposite of Patriarchy in the sense. That’s the most basic definition and not the kind of Misandry we see in today’s world,
unless you visit places like Jezebell. What I see the most of today is a situation where men’s culture is constantly ridiculed and looked down
upon, yet women’s culture is applauded and encouraged.
This is clearly visible in a variety of ways and I will begin with popular media such as TV and movies.
TV, Movies & Advertising
How many sitcoms portray the men as being subservient to his all-knowing wife? How many show him to be some kinds of bumbling idiot, who cannot for
the life him, do anything without approval or assistance from the ‘strong’ women in their lives?
Everybody Loves Raymond and King Of Queens come to mind right away, but even in contemporary shows like The Big Bang Theory, we see these messages put
across to our young people.
How many products are advertised to men with the only benefit being it will make your lady happy? Sure women’s magazines have those too, but those
are written by women for women, where the opposite is written by women FOR men.
The point is that there are no more masculine role models for young boys anymore. The whole culture of men has been changed by women to be more
feminized in general. Now I’m not saying being sensitive and having female qualities in a man is a bad thing, don’t get me wrong, I’m gay and
quite feminine in some of my demeanor.
The problem is that the idea of a manly man or a traditionally masculine man is no longer present. When it is shown it’s made fun of and made out
to be something negative that we should strive to move away from.
Another issue within our media is the portrayal of men as being the evil doers in the world. Shows like Law and Order portray in almost every case,
men as being the sole persons responsible for sexual assault and domestic violence.
One double standard is a meme I’ve seen posted a few times on the net.
You cannot deny that what this graphic says is entirely true. The same would happen if a bunch of men lined up to see a new version of the spice
girls or something of that nature. The double standard in this sort of respect within our media is prominent and hardly challenged.
The culture of portraying men as the enemy, teaches young women to disrespect men and hold their opinions and values above theirs. Much like
misogynists used media to push their insane opinions on women before the WRM, feminists are beginning to do the same.
Justice Systems & Laws
I need not remind anybody in most cases how the laws for custody, alimony and various other legal proceedings that include marriage or children seem
to have been written exclusively to assist women.
We have governments who subsidize single motherhood. I don’t remember where I read it, but certain welfare and social benefits in certain states
include specifically that you will lose benefits if a MAN is living in your home. You could have 10 women though, and that would be fine, but ONE
single man and benefits disappear entirely.
We see men accused of rape and convicted without any real due process. We see abortion laws that cater specifically to women and give no rights to
the man as to the fate of his old flesh and blood.
Economically speaking, there have been situations where lobbying efforts by feminist movements have created disparity. Let’s look at this example
form the stimulus.
A "man-cession." That's what some economists are starting to call it. Of the 5.7 million jobs Americans lost between December 2007 and May
2009, nearly 80 percent had been held by men. Mark Perry, an economist at the University of Michigan, characterizes the recession as a "downturn"
for women but a "catastrophe" for men.
Men are bearing the brunt of the current economic crisis because they predominate in manufacturing and construction, the hardest-hit sectors, which
have lost more than 3 million jobs since December 2007. Women, by contrast, are a majority in recession-resistant fields such as education and health
care, which gained 588,000 jobs during the same period.
The National Organization for Women (NOW), the Feminist Majority, the Institute for Women's Policy Research, and the National Women's Law
Center soon joined the battle against the supposedly sexist bailout of men's jobs. At the suggestion of a staffer to Speaker of the House Nancy
Pelosi, NOW president Kim Gandy canvassed for a female equivalent of the "testosterone-laden 'shovel-ready' " terminology. ("Apron-ready" was
broached but rejected.) Christina Romer, the highly regarded economist President Obama chose to chair his Council of Economic Advisers, would later
say of her entrance on the political stage, "The very first email I got . . . was from a women's group saying 'We don't want this stimulus package
to just create jobs for burly men.' "
The article is quite lengthy and gives a pretty good picture at how lobbying doesn’t just work for corporations and special interest groups, but
whole sects of society like gender.
Some say these are all isolated events and that men deserve what they get for the years of oppression to women. Which brings me to my next point: