I kind of went through the same thing.
My Mother died of cancer last year. On Mothers Day, no less.
It is tough to understand what a person in that situation is really going through.
Conversations become heart-wrenching, and in your attempts to be supportive - it's difficult.
Because you both probably know how serious it really is.
It goes without saying.
Me personally, I am a lot like my Mother. In the sense of how we dealt with our own emotions.
It is not a comfortable conversation, either way.
And when it comes down to it - I'm sure they are aware of what's best for themselves.
As with a lot of people, everyone has their own way of coping and dealing with difficult situations.
I'm sure your grandmother appreciates your compassion and caring, but she's more than likely in a 'blank' state of mind right now.
Meaning, even though her thoughts are probably spinning - her emotions are probably torn.
As she tries to come to terms with the severity of what is happening.
It is important for you, NOT to consider yourself as "letting your grandmother die".
There is not much you can do, and that's the worst part of the experience on your end.
It is the worst feeling in the world, having to watch something like that transgress and take a loved one away. Not being able to stop it.
But like I said,
you should know that your caring does show.
And your grandmother does appreciates it.
It's just one of those things that must be extremely difficult to cope with.
Don't blame yourself, and continue to be supportive as much as you can.
Handle the situation lightly - and show your willingness to do whatever it takes to be helpful, and make her comfortable.
In the long run, that is all you can do.
- All the Best.
edit on 24-6-2013 by iunlimited491 because: (no reason given)