posted on Jun, 19 2013 @ 09:13 AM
In a general reply to the problems with parents:
My son just graduated from high school last year. Thank God I didn't have to seriously hurt any principals.
I took both kids to school the first day of every school year until they no longer wanted me to. I was there at every awards day, every school event,
despite driving a truck OTR at the time. I threatened to quit several jobs if I didn't get to the event on time, to the point of handing keys to my
dispatcher. I met with every teacher at one time or another. I did everything I could to make sure my kids knew how important school was, not by
words, but by actions.
It worked: my daughter graduated college with an AS in Psychology Suma Cum Laude at age 19. My son went into a trade, CNC Lathe
Machinist/Programmer, and placed second in the nation his last year of competition and first in the state two years running. He is now in college with
full scholarships pursuing a Mechanical Engineering degree while working in the field he was trained for.
But to do all this, I had to put up with the most ridiculous BS I have ever seen. Walk into a school today, and you the parent are treated like some
sort of mad bomber after establishing who you are. Bulletproof glass, accusatory tones, and a total inability to talk to anyone. One day my son
was driving to school and his truck broke down. He called me, and i drove out in the car... sure enough, the thing had overheated and wasn't going
anywhere for a half-hour. I tossed him the keys and told him to get to school and I would follow in the truck. I got to school a little while later,
with the truck running right now, and went inside to give him the keys and get mine. Three separate people had to vet my story; they had to inspect
the keys, they wanted exact details on where the truck broke down, what car was mine, etc. Finally in desperation, I just looked one in the eye and
growled, "Get my boy out here." They looked him up, he walked into the office, I grabbed his keys off the desk (to the surprise of the guy who was
keeping them "safe") and tossed them to him, he tossed me mine, I told him where I parked, and I left.
If you want parents to get involved and be a part of the process, you have to allow parents to get involved and be part of the process.
When the kids were younger, I always told them what my Dad used to tell me: get a spanking at school and there's a worse one waiting on you at home.
Then one day my son comes home scared to death, telling me he got a spanking. As I pulled off the belt to reinforce my rule, he cries out, "but you
told me to defend myself if someone hit me!" I stopped and asked what happened. Apparently (and this was verified by school personnel) he was
attacked in the bathroom by two known bullies who decided his head needed to be in the toilet. In the scuffle, my son elbowed the main bully in the
chest and the bully started crying. His sidekick went and told the teacher my son was fighting. My son got a spanking, the bully got nothing because
their parents didn't believe in corporal punishment.
My son didn't get a spanking at home. He got praised for defending himself. He also got to watch me go off on a principal the next day at school, to
the point of explaining that I was not above spanking her butt up and down the school halls in front of God and everybody if she ever unjustly laid a
hand on my boy again.
Now everyone knows why I am thanking God they are out of school.
There are bad parents. But the good parents are now being treated like bad parents, so most will simply give up. All that's left is a school staff
who have absolutely no parental backup, and that's a recipe for disaster. That all goes back to regulation and restriction... political correctness,
trying to make sure no child gets their feelings hurt, thinking everyone who walks in is a bad parent just there to cause trouble, and the complete
inability of some faculty members (not all, just enough to matter) to even comprehend right and wrong.
We don't need more money; we don't need more laws; we don't need more teachers. We need common sense and a desire to teach. And the Feds just
don't have either of those traits in abundance.