posted on Jun, 18 2013 @ 07:40 PM
First off, thank you for taking the time to read my thread, and in advance for any advice offered.
A little background:
I'm a 25 year old Iraqi war veteran, I am classified as disabled by the Veterans Administration because of my issues with P.T.S.D and severe nerve
damage in my back. I also, have problems with my knees they tend to buckle a few times a day, leading to some great face plants or landing on my
I've been married for about 4 years, and been with my wife for almost 6 years, we lived together over a year before we got married. We have two kids
together, they are one year and 11 months apart. one boy and one girl.
A few weeks ago, she was caught, on face book with an "old friend" also another vet, who was my friend. he was trying to convince her to leave me,
and she seemed to be going for it. They also engaged in a semi-relationship of sorts, the kind that you normally find online.
The only reason, she was caught, was that went out for a smoke. She asked me to check a game she plays and left the message up. which got my
attention, this happened before, and I would always, tell her to respond. It was not unusual for me to relay messages.
in the messages, she made mention that she didn't think she loved me any more. As well, as urging him to "help" her. I didn't read the whole
thing, which was extensive and lasting many days, or weeks. When confronted, she at first claimed innocence, than came clean. Saying that she knew
what she was doing was wrong and was going to tell me/ show me after she ended their tryst.
I find this hard to believe but having been cheated on before, by another girl, against my better judgement gave her the benefit of the doubt.
well, this all happened a few weeks ago now, and she seemed to be telling the truth, going out of her way to prove that she was sorry. posting on
other sites, we frequent such as an RPG site where we roll play to to help us improve our writing. She has a blog over there, where she told people
what she did, and why and so forth.
Well today, I get up and she is acting odd, weird for her, depressed what have you. She tells me she is going to take a shower, she spends a few hours
in the shower, which is not out of character for her when she isn't feeling well.
Than when she gets out, I ask her if she was Ok, than got hit with a few generality's and blown off, when I press the matter, she makes vague
statements about me cheating on her, and that she shouldn't feel so tore up inside because she got busted. Which would be fine, if I had ever cheated
on her, but I have never done so. She connected a few of my doctors appointments and claimed, I never went. except, that I have my doctor notes, from
the VA that I get every time, I go to the doctor for any thing.
So there it is in a nut shell.
My take on it:
I think, she is projecting on my because, what she said was true that she doesn't love me any more, nor does she want to stay in a relationship with
me. I think that she is trying desperately to try and find any thing she can to justify her actions and make a clean break where she doesn't look
like the bad guy. I'm loved by her family.
Let me know what you all think?