Hi guys, I'm of course sad but in need of a rant as well, I think. I would like some feedback relevant to what I am about to reveal....advice and
such. Please be kind...I'm feeling so off kilter from all this.
Hubby and I are both in various stages of ill health...but we are still alive and kickin as much as possible whenever possible.
However, our family
is what causes us considerable confusion and unhappiness. Heres the deal...we try and stay as independant as possible. We try and do eveything we can
on our own. What few times we are both not well, if we ever do need a ride to docs or to pick up a few store items, we always get excuses from family
and end up having to make do on our own. They rarely visit. We love the entire family but are disheartened.
We have never been the bossy types or pesky or nosey as to our kids lives...we mind our own business and don't nag or lecture or call on phones...we
don't like phones much. We don't interfere in their affairs. Yet, we have always helped them with money problems, given emotional support when
needed, bought them their first flat screen tvs and given them furniture and tools when we had to down size from big home/property to smaller
arrangements because we could no longer up keep because of health issues. They aren't the type that would help with the lawn once in a while or take
us to the store or whatnot. We didn't give them things to expect heavy strings attached but just a small amount of help and kindness simply because
they are family would have been nice. Yet, zilch.
I feel like hubby and I have been very generous and loving and good hearted to family. They never had to fear us or be annoyed by us. Even bail money
was provided when needed. We are very thoughtful and cannot understand what ever happened to the "thoughtfulness gene" relevant to the rest of the
Now, they are demanding copies of our wills, want keys to our house....telling us if we are ever in a coma, they will smother us to help end our
misery. We have always wanted to be buried in one piece but they are claiming to want to cremate us both. My daughter is a junkie so we made grandson
executor of our will before he married. His wife is the one with the smothering/cremation plans so we plan to see the jag attorneys at the AFB and
change wills. Grandson was addict and convicted felon but seemed to straighten up with good job now and 2 kids but nutty wife so.....what to do. Hubby
has always believed grandson hasn't changed as much as I believe or else he wouldn't be with the style wife he is with...I don't know what to think
anymore. So dissappointed. Are we wrong to change stuff. With no family to rely on/trust, who can be executor if we both passed at once? I'm sure the
jag can tell us...just wondering...would it be wrong to leave our small money insurance amount to charity or some such? I hate that things are as they
are and very sad. Thanx for listening.
Hubby and I are in charge of wills for each other if we go separately and that is good...the thing that
worries me if we went in a wreck at once....then the family would be in charge and I don't like their ideas/plans. I'm not looking for legal advice
here...more emotional ideas/support/opinions.
PS-Hubby and I have been good people, I think....no criminal records. not even traffic tickets. good hearted, fun natured, kind, generous, hard
working...not junkies or drunks...what happened? We both came from horrible childhoods...did some bad genes skip a generation or what. We just can't
figure it out. We would never say and do the things our younger family has done and we sure would never be like our horrible, scary psycho
parents...so, what happened.?