posted on Jun, 16 2013 @ 03:24 AM
Ive never encountered a family situation in my life that wasn't caused by both parties even in some small way, you paint the picture of a perfect
life you tried to provide for your family. Which very well may be how you see it, but maybe your kids did not get the same take out of the situation
as you suggest.
Ill use an example from my life, I currently am taking care of my father, he is living with me now. In his advanced years he has taken to romanticizes
my childhood and his experience as my father, If anyone went by his view of what that was like they would have no clue what it was really like.
Yet the same can be said for me, my side of the story is more bleak and not as sunny as he remembers it, same with my two brothers each having their
own take on it based off their own experiences. For my Eldest Brother, first born, He got the "Golden child" upbringing, being the first born boy,
My youngest got the "baby" experience. Myself the typical middle child to a T, with a mild helping of good whooping every now and than my brothers
did not get.
My point being you maybe too near the situation to see it clearly, there could be a cause for the underlining tension between you and your children
that you don't know.
Keep in mind your children are reflections of you, You raised them, you played a huge role in their lives. What ever the root causes of the situation
you find your self in, it is important for everyone involved they get resolved, perhaps get a counselor involved, if religious clergy perhaps.
Try to work the situation out amicably with them, voice your concerns and fears, Do all you can to mend the relationships.
If after you've done your best and still no resolution to their behavior, well there are plenty of good charities out there that could use a