Has the nature of your conspiracy, alternative, or paranormal lifestyle ever cost you any friends? Have you ever seen a relationship end because of a
disagreement in core beliefs? I used to think I could get along and be friends with anyone. But all too often have I felt the sting of what my views
and beliefs bring with them—rejection.
Many of you know that I had a series of paranormal experiences as a teenager. These experiences forced me to seriously rethink my worldview. It was as
if my world was shaken and turned upside down. I debated a long time whether to tell someone, but I abstained out of fear of being labeled a
“nutjob,” or a “kook.” Even worse, I was afraid of being rejected.
Nonetheless, I desperately needed to tell someone what I was going through, what was happening to me. I made the mistake of telling my then
girlfriend; a person I trusted most. It flipped her out, she didn’t know how to react, and we were broken up not long after. I was hoping for some
kind of…basic understanding, acknowledgment, and empathy. Instead, I alienated myself.
I was astounded when I lost a good friend years later because I made the mistake of having a different belief. I remember throwing on a movie when
entertaining a long-standing childhood friend of mine. We usually had similar tastes in music and movies, so I thought he would get a kick out of my
all-time favorite movie 2001: A Space Odyssey. The beginning of the movie has a brief subtext on the evolution of humans. He asked me to stop the
movie because he didn’t believe in evolution theory. He proceeded to debate me on the subject although I was unwilling to make it an issue. He
seemed determined to prove a point to me rather than just find something else to watch or something else to do. I was speechless! I was willing to
agree to disagree and carry on—he was not. He was adamant. This was the last time we saw each other. It’s amazing how one little thing you learn
about someone can end the whole friendship. He stopped answering my calls and that...was that.
I also carry with me some religious and spiritual beliefs in addition to my belief in evolution. I had a few dates with this woman I met in a college
philosophy class. Interestingly, the class was about world religions and took a bit of a slant towards tolerance. After having a few dates with her,
she began to prod me on my spiritual/religious beliefs. She was very outspoken about her beliefs. She felt mine conflicted with hers. I found that I
could not appease her if I was to remain honest and steadfast. The relationship ended there. I did not think a difference in beliefs was enough to
end what seemed like a promising start to a relationship. I was willing to compromise. She was not.
I am not without guilt. I, myself, have ended a friendship with someone when I found out they were abusing drugs; the really bad ones, the dangerous
ones, the damaging ones.
I have also alienated myself from a few family members for talking about some of my beliefs and experiences. Once I was afraid of being called a kook,
now I know that it’s more important to speak what’s in your heart than to be afraid of being rejected. When you keep silent about what you feel
compelled to express, you are really just rejecting yourself.
Has anyone else seen a friendship or relationship fall apart for these seemingly stupid reasons? Conversely, has anyone seen a friendship or
relationship strengthened in some way as a result of talking about these beliefs in conspiracy, alternative, paranormal etc?
I have one strengthening story actually. My estranged father and I developed a closer relationship after sharing a bit about our paranormal sides. My
dad was a night trucker for a long time in his career. I decided to break the ice and ask if he ever listened to Coast To Coast AM with Art Bell while
on his route. I was looking for some common ground. To my astonishment, he answered "I've been listening for years." He then shared with me some of
his paranormal experiences that he was always afraid to tell anyone about.
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