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Originally posted by rockhndr
So basically what you are saying is that because all children get bullied in some way, that it is OK to put a child in a situation that the higher possibility for bullying is there?
It is a TOTALLY NEW ballgame to tell your GAYparents that THEIR choices are what are harming you most in your psychological childhood years....
Originally posted by AfterInfinity
If anyone has any questions regarding the matter of being raised by homosexuals, I can offer my personal expertise. I don't think I turned out all that bad.
In my larger picture of a 'normal' nuclear family, my ex-wife is a drug-abusing dingbat and dumped the kids. Talk about cherry-picking...good luck finding the Cleavers.
Originally posted by Hopechest
Does a gay couple present the situations that a typical husband and wife do? Does a child lose out on anything without having a mom in the house per se?
Men are men regardless and visa versa.
We can cherry pick things like the OP is doing but we do need to discuss the larger picture.
Originally posted by Hopechest
reply to post by Benevolent Heretic
Certainly there are many gay couples that perform their job of raising children to the highest level.
No question about that.
But as a society we should look at the overall impact.
Does a gay couple present the situations that a typical husband and wife do? Does a child lose out on anything without having a mom in the house per se?
Men are men regardless and visa versa.
We can cherry pick things like the OP is doing but we do need to discuss the larger picture.
Originally posted by AfterInfinity
If anyone has any questions regarding the matter of being raised by homosexuals, I can offer my personal expertise.
Originally posted by Romeo1
Well Im for kids haveing a loving family straight or gay.. but I do have an example of a negative..
I know a lesbian couple that are very very anti male...and they adopted a little girl.
You cannot tell me for an instant that they will not be imposing their views on men on that little girl. Now you say thats about what a regular straight couple do with their views.. however since this girl is now a young teen she has experimented with other girls and doesnt like it and proclaimed herself straight.
I doubt that she would have experimented with the same sex had she been brought up by a straight couple..(my opinion)
Is this bad...dont know I personally just dont like it..would she have experimented with same sex partner maybe...but I doubt it would have happened int high school..
just food for thought...
Originally posted by markosity1973
These are all valid questions and points.
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
reply to post by markosity1973
Originally posted by markosity1973
These are all valid questions and points.
I was talking with my husband about this last night and he brought light to what I think Hopechest was saying. And here's the question I wish Hopechest had asked:
With everything else being equal, does a child fare better in a two-gender parent home rather than a single-gender parent (or single parent) home? In other words, if all the parents were equally kind, loving, caring and met the child's needs equally, which is better for the child's well-being?
The Family Within the whanau the elementary family of parents and children was not very clearly defined as a structural unit. But there is good evidence that for many social purposes in everyday life, including much of the care of children, the elementary family was an operational group. Moreover, the fact that a person could inherit land rights from his mother as well as from his father meant a specification of ties in individual family terms and not a merging of them indiscriminately in the extended family. However, in residence, land rights, exchange of goods, and many other social and economic actions, the elementary family of parents and children did not stand out as a separate entity in the way characteristic of European family life. Traditional Maori society emphasised the rights and obligations of persons as members of village, whanau and hapu rather than as discrete individuals. Moreover, individuals were used at times in order to further group interests. Marriages were sometimes contracted on behalf of young people by their elders for political reasons. Again, adoption, a fairly common custom in traditional Maori society, often took place in order to revive or bind more closely kin ties among people who lived at a distance, sometimes with the object of renewing rights to land or maintaining connections for aid in war.
Originally posted by rockhndr
how hard do you think it really is for kids of gay parents to actually speak up and say what they really feel without hurting the family????
Originally posted by rockhndr
Let me ask you this...IF you could save ONE child from going through those experiences you went through at 5 and 17...wouldn't you??? Why wouldn't I be any different??edit on 5-6-2013 by rockhndr because: re-thought my response...