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Originally posted by Hopechest
Yes I'm sure they could handle it but it doesn't replace having your mom in the house.
See the difference?
I remember that from the time when adoption was just a remote possibility, until our first couple of years together as a family, I would look to those future moments with my daughter and think that there are just some times when Jay and I won't be be able to give Selena those important female rites of passage.
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This means that we had resolved that there were just some moments when we were going to have to rely on the women around us in our lives to help Selena through those steps to womanhood. We made sure that there would be lots of aunts, grandmas, and friends that would be ready to lend a hand when those moments came.
Originally posted by Hopechest
My sympathies to you for having to witness that.
Originally posted by Hopechest
My mother died when I was very young so I was raised by my father and I remember when I was 13 and had my first bleeding I ran out to him because I was scared.
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I want my mom there.
Originally posted by Romeo1
I know a lesbian couple that are very very anti male...and they adopted a little girl.
You cannot tell me for an instant that they will not be imposing their views on men on that little girl.
Now you say thats about what a regular straight couple do with their views.. however since this girl is now a young teen she has experimented with other girls and doesnt like it and proclaimed herself straight.
I doubt that she would have experimented with the same sex had she been brought up by a straight couple..(my opinion)
Is this bad...dont know I personally just dont like it..would she have experimented with same sex partner maybe...but I doubt it would have happened int high school..
just food for thought...
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
I say we listen to the kids.
Does a gay couple present the situations that a typical husband and wife do? Does a child lose out on anything without having a mom in the house per se?
Originally posted by Hopechest
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
reply to post by Hopechest
Originally posted by Hopechest
The question is though, is a poor woman/man relationship able to provide more than a perfect man/man, woman/woman relationship simply by the different ideals they will teach?
You simply cannot generalize by gender. Gender is not the deciding factor in ANY parental abilities. What's important is a loving home, where the child's needs come first. Where the people (regardless of gender) hold the child's well-being as the most important product of their family. That is not decided by gender. That is decided by the values and character of the PEOPLE who are raising the child. Gender is irrelevant.
I understand your view but my question is this:
Is a home with a mother and father better than a home with a father father/mother mother?
I believe that in the ideal situation, a mother father gives more to a child than two of the same sex, simply because of the different roles they play.
Originally posted by Hopechest
Originally posted by ManFromEurope
Originally posted by Hopechest
reply to post by Benevolent Heretic
The question is though, is a poor woman/man relationship able to provide more than a perfect man/man, woman/woman relationship simply by the different ideals they will teach?
I honestly do not know.
Aaaand what about those single-parents? Where is the man/woman in the house in those cases? Shouldn't those be handled with precautions, too?
Well, I was just thinking aloud here..
My mother died when I was very young so I was raised by my father and I remember when I was 13 and had my first bleeding I ran out to him because I was scared.
He thought I was cut and grabbed a bunch of bandages and stuff and when he finally realized what was going on he turned as white as a ghost. Literally.
We lived in the desert, far away from any city and he jumped in the truck and got Ms. Johanson, our nearest neighbor about 5 miles away and brought her over.
I will never forget it...."dear...its natural..here you go"....and she fixed me up and talked to me for a couple hours about what it means to change into a woman.
Can a man/man relationship deal with that?