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Originally posted by markosity1973
reply to post by Hopechest
You are more than welcome to present such evidence. And I am more than happy to discuss it.
And yes, I am pro gay marriage.
Originally posted by Hopechest
When a gay couple raises a child your only getting one of those. There is no question that the ideal gay couple will raise a child better than most male/female unions but my problem is that gay couples are humans at the end of the day and most of them are not ideal.....as most man/woman unions are not ideal.
Originally posted by Hopechest
I personally feel that a woman and man will raise a child better than a gay couple simply because of the two different perspectives they bring.
When a gay couple raises a child your only getting one of those.
Originally posted by Hopechest
reply to post by Benevolent Heretic
The question is though, is a poor woman/man relationship able to provide more than a perfect man/man, woman/woman relationship simply by the different ideals they will teach?
I honestly do not know.
Originally posted by ManFromEurope
Originally posted by Hopechest
reply to post by Benevolent Heretic
The question is though, is a poor woman/man relationship able to provide more than a perfect man/man, woman/woman relationship simply by the different ideals they will teach?
I honestly do not know.
Aaaand what about those single-parents? Where is the man/woman in the house in those cases? Shouldn't those be handled with precautions, too?
Well, I was just thinking aloud here..
Originally posted by Hopechest
The question is though, is a poor woman/man relationship able to provide more than a perfect man/man, woman/woman relationship simply by the different ideals they will teach?
Originally posted by Hopechest
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Does a gay couple present the situations that a typical husband and wife do? Does a child lose out on anything without having a mom in the house per se?.
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The number of US children living in single-parent homes has nearly doubled in 50 years
Today, one-third of American children – a total of 15 million – are being raised without a father. Nearly five million more children live without a mother.
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The majority of black children nationwide – 54 percent – are being raised by single mothers.
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2013 Source
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According to Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support: 2007, released by the U.S. Census Bureau in November, 2009, there are approximately 13.7 million single parents in the United States today, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.8 million children (approximately 26% of children under 21 in the U.S. today).
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Source
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A growing number of studies show that fatherlessness has a major negative impact on the social and emotional development of children.
A 2011 University of Melbourne study found that absent fathers were linked with higher rates of juvenile delinquency, while a Canadian study showed that kids whose fathers were active parents in early and middle childhood had fewer behavior problems and higher intellectual abilities as they grew older, even among socio-economically at-risk families...
As per the source above
In the U.S. 400,540 children are living without permanent families in the foster care system. 115,000 of these children are eligible for adoption, but nearly 40% of these children will wait over three years in foster care before being adopted.
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Around the world, there are an estimated 153 million orphans who have lost one parent. There are 17,800,000 million orphans who have lost both parents and are living in orphanages or on the streets and lack the care and attention required for healthy development. These children are at risk for disease, malnutrition, and death.
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Children raised in orphanages have an IQ 20 points lower than their peers in foster care.
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Each year, over 27,000 youth “age out” of foster care without the emotional and financial support necessary to succeed. This number has steadily risen over the past decade. Nearly 40% had been homeless or couch surfed, nearly 60% of young men had been convicted of a crime, and only 48% were employed. 75% of women and 33% of men receive government benefits to meet basic needs. 50% of all youth who aged out were involved in substance use and 17% of the females were pregnant.
Nearly 25% of youth aging out did not have a high school diploma or GED, and a mere 6% had finished a two- or four-year degree after aging out of foster care. One study shows 70% of all youth in foster care have the desire to attend college.
As of 2011, nearly 60,000 children in foster care in the U.S. are placed in institutions or group homes, not in traditional foster homes.
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And so on
... that doesn't mean there are only 123,000 children in foster care, not by a long shot. The foster care population is nearly four times larger — about 463,000, according to current data from the HHS's Adoption and Foster Care Analysis and Reporting System (AFCARS).
And so on
...“Something has to be done about it, and it starts with the culture and reversing the attitude that marriage is not important,”...
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
reply to post by Hopechest
Originally posted by Hopechest
The question is though, is a poor woman/man relationship able to provide more than a perfect man/man, woman/woman relationship simply by the different ideals they will teach?
You simply cannot generalize by gender. Gender is not the deciding factor in ANY parental abilities. What's important is a loving home, where the child's needs come first. Where the people (regardless of gender) hold the child's well-being as the most important product of their family. That is not decided by gender. That is decided by the values and character of the PEOPLE who are raising the child. Gender is irrelevant.
Originally posted by Hopechest
Can a man/man relationship deal with that?
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
reply to post by Hopechest
Originally posted by Hopechest
Can a man/man relationship deal with that?
If a single man (your father) dealt with it, then two men can deal with it. Either they'd explain it the way your female neighbor did or they'd ask their female friend, sister, or even the child's biological mother to help, just as your father did.
When I started my period, my male teacher asked a female teacher to help out. And I had a mom and a dad!
Do you know any gay men? Some are VERY effeminate and practically have periods themselves! I have no doubt a gay man or two gay men could handle it very competently. They would talk it over ahead of time (they know it's coming) and agree on how to handle it for the child's best interest.
Originally posted by Hopechest
I understand your view but my question is this:
Is a home with a mother and father better than a home with a father father/mother mother?
I believe that in the ideal situation, a mother father gives more to a child than two of the same sex, simply because of the different roles they play.