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posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 05:32 PM
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GREAT!

I have no friends to speak of - there is no one I ever really speak to for moral support or basic friendship. All my "friends" are my work colleagues and I don't socialise with them.

I don't speak to or visit my family, for various reasons but mostly because I have nothing in common with them.

I don't go to bars, clubbing and I don't drink and I hate social gatherings. I never celebrate my birthdays (even the big ones) and I despise being the centre of attention. I once walked out of my own surprise party - which was thrown even after I told everyone, several times, that I didn't want one.

I don't listen to (or like) music - its just annoying noise to me, so I avoid all music venues and events. People find this strange considering my job. But im paid to do my job and enjoying the end product of it is not my purpose.

I have a great job which I truly love.
I have a great girlfriend / partner whom I love with all my heart.
I have a wonderful doggie who is my bestest pal


What more do I need?

I am happy, content and enjoy my life.

To those of you who are like me, but are constantly told we are abnormal - don't believe a word of it. Don't forget, we can sit quietly in the corner and watch people doing the stange things they do and wonder - that to us, everyone else is weird.

Don't fret on other peoples opinions of you. Everyone is a unique individual and we are all our own "normal"

Chin up, be happy and content with what you have and don't give a crap about what other people think of you!

that is all
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posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 05:36 PM
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Im gonna have to agree with you...

I can deal with either way of life, but I do prefer my alone time...




posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 05:38 PM
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you are a bundle of fun bud but i understand where you are coming from i am a happy hermit to but walking out of your own party



posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 05:40 PM
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Indeed, I prefer my alone time (or GF/Dog time) to live how I want to live.

Every day people tell me im weird or that I "need to get out more"

I don't know why, but "getting out more" just seems to give other people drama. and since I have no drama in my life I wonder why I would want to add some.

Of course, having a well developed sense of apathy helps



posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 05:40 PM
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Amen, brother, welcome to the Awesome Introverts Club.



posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 05:42 PM
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I am an introvert but I have never felt alienated or bad about it
. I would definitely not recommend a relationship with another introvert though, this is a lesson I learnt recently.



posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 05:42 PM
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Over simplification....

I was insulted that people I don't even spend time with, chose to ignore my own wishes which they had all been informed of several times. I don't want to spend time with people who don't listen and think they know what I want better than I do.

I have no regrets about it

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I should point out that it once and for all stopped the oh-my-god-are-they-gonna-throw-me-a-party anxiety.
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posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 05:55 PM
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Originally posted by DestroyDestroyDestroy
Amen, brother, welcome to the Awesome Introverts Club.


Hmm an jntorverts club! Sounds cool.





Hang on, does this mean I have to spend time with people who won't talk to each other or do anything?



posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 06:15 PM
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I'm in the same boat as you, minus the girlfriend, canine companion, job, and indifference to music.

I don't go clubbing anymore, and I get criticized for choosing not to drink alcohol or do drugs (peer pressure annoys the hell out of me). I tend to be quiet and soft-spoken, unless I'm around people I know. It's just, social interactions can be draining and exhausting at times...luckily for me, introversion is a personal preference, I wasn't cast aside as a deviant or "outsider."



posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 06:21 PM
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I should add something about my job - it isn't even remotely social. I work on my own, in a small room, in the dark.
that's why I love it! I can just get on with it and not worry about people bothering me!

I think of myself as a willing outsider who prefers to watch the world go around in circles worrying about itself
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posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 06:30 PM
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You are basically me apart from the:
Listening to music, which i do.
Having a girlfriend, which i don't
Having a dog, which i don't.
Walking out on my surprise party (which i didn't want and told people), but stayed anyways, was unhappy the whole time because none of MY friends were there, So just got drunk.



posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 06:31 PM
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We are legion...

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posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 06:35 PM
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Whatever makes you happy without bringing deliberate suffering unto others, go for it. It's your human life experience, enjoy it as you best see fit.

 



On the other hand, no human infant can hit the ground running, ready to take care of itself. No civilization or society was ever built by one person alone. Purely by design and natural instinct, humans are a social-group species.

I'm afraid that the technology of today (television, computers, smart devices, video games) and the conditioning of fear, has further fragmented our great human collective. Instead of block parties where everyone knows their entire neighborhood, we close our doors and windows and stay in our caves. Afraid of terror. Afraid of war. Afraid of robbery, rape, and kidnapping. Afraid of disease. Afraid of the whole world.

In addition to fear conditioning is the ego conditioning. It is propped up to the point of beliefs of superiority, or feelings such as "I don't need anyone, I can do everything on my own." Well, none of us are participating in this society all on our own. Even on this forum we are sharing obvious relationships. It would take a person to live in the wilderness without a single possession to be able to claim that that don't need anyone else. Our egos have gotten in the way of our natural and intrinsic relationships.

I have watched extreme cases of isolation occur. Situations in which individuals have anxiety attacks just by having a conversation with another person.

Alone is good. But we are our greatest in unity.

Peace.


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posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 06:37 PM
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for the self-contained



posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 06:50 PM
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Originally posted by DaRAGE
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You are basically me apart from the:
Listening to music, which i do.
Having a girlfriend, which i don't
Having a dog, which i don't.
Walking out on my surprise party (which i didn't want and told people), but stayed anyways, was unhappy the whole time because none of MY friends were there, So just got drunk.


But I bet you still have lots of other ways to enjoy life! Perhaps you don't want a girlfriend or a dog - that's your choice and I wont pass judgement al long as you are happy



posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 06:53 PM
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Originally posted by Kgnow
Whatever makes you happy without bringing deliberate suffering unto others, go for it. It's your human life experience, enjoy it as you best see fit.

 



On the other hand, no human infant can hit the ground running, ready to take care of itself. No civilization or society was ever built by one person alone. Purely by design and natural instinct, humans are a social-group species.

I'm afraid that the technology of today (television, computers, smart devices, video games) and the conditioning of fear, has further fragmented our great human collective. Instead of block parties where everyone knows their entire neighborhood, we close our doors and windows and stay in our caves. Afraid of terror. Afraid of war. Afraid of robbery, rape, and kidnapping. Afraid of disease. Afraid of the whole world.

I have watched extreme cases of isolation occur. Situations in which individuals have anxiety attacks just by having a conversation with another person.

Alone is good. But we are our greatest in unity.

Peace.


I totally agree - If we worked as a collective (which is not being extrovert) great things could be achieved.

The problem is that we now live in what appears to be the age of STUPID and FEAR with a me me me culture. This is what has put me off being a social person. Its not a superiority complex, its not looking down at anyone, its just bafflement at modern human behaviours and not wanting to be a part of something so self oriented and showy.
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posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 07:15 PM
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That is not being an introvert. Other than the music part, i am quite similar. I don't hang out with folks. I have my wife, and kids. Mom lives with me (she cared for me when I was young, I will care for her when she is old), and we all pretty much stick together.

But you get your moral support, etc, from your better half. And your dog. You have those things. You have a job and must have social skills and communication skills to have a great job related to music.

An introvert is someone who is incapable, to varying degrees, of meaningful social interaction. It could be because they are thoughtful, or antisocial, or any number of other reasons. An introvert will sit in the corner of the party, but will still attend the party begrudgingly. I would recommend you lighten up a little bit and not walk out of parties that people throw for you. Just get through it and reap the benefits of not insulting people who mean well.



posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 07:38 PM
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Originally posted by bigfatfurrytexan
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That is not being an introvert. Other than the music part, i am quite similar. I don't hang out with folks. I have my wife, and kids. Mom lives with me (she cared for me when I was young, I will care for her when she is old), and we all pretty much stick together.

But you get your moral support, etc, from your better half. And your dog. You have those things. You have a job and must have social skills and communication skills to have a great job related to music.

An introvert is someone who is incapable, to varying degrees, of meaningful social interaction. It could be because they are thoughtful, or antisocial, or any number of other reasons. An introvert will sit in the corner of the party, but will still attend the party begrudgingly. I would recommend you lighten up a little bit and not walk out of parties that people throw for you. Just get through it and reap the benefits of not insulting people who mean well.


My job isn't directly related to music, although is a small part of it. Kinda hard to explain. My interest is the equipment and generating the best possible customer experience (from a technical standpoint) but I have no interest in the content itself. I work on my own with very little interaction with other members of staff. Pretty much the only time people see me is when I go to the café and get a coffee or coke.

I don't want to reap any benefits of people who have themselves insulted me by throwing a party I didn't want. Many would say I was being selfish - I on the other hand found their actions selfish and disrespectful and insulting. I prefer to be on my own. I actively avoid, by choice any social gatherings because they make me feel uncomfortable as I dont confirm to other peoples "norms" .Whether by choice or being incapable, being an introvert is being an introvert.



posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 08:40 PM
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I certainly would never tell another person how they should live, or how they should engage the world. However, I am willing to suggest, mostly out of concern for another person. Which is ironic, because that motivation is the gist of what I am getting at.

Humans are social. You and I both live in this world full of humans, as humans. Yes, it is painfully difficult sometimes to tolerate others. I could not agree with that sentiment any more than I already do. But it is important to remember that our success in this world depends largely on other people. Greasing the wheels with a minimum of social interaction and customs certainly would typically provide a benefit.

Besides, non of us really knows the purpose of our existence. It would stand to reason that if there even is a reason, that reason involves the human experience. No matter how difficult it may be, participating in the human experience would seem to be a prerequisite to just about any purpose that there could be.

Regardless, I get where you are coming from. I share a lot of those same traits.



posted on Jun, 1 2013 @ 11:41 PM
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I know I am the most introverted person in the world.I may be an apathetic or just don't click with most people.I want to hate hate tham for what they have become.There is no extra strenght for for silly people...I am alone and perfer no better.....it's dark in here,sorry about the grammer.



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