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Originally posted by KyrieEleison
reply to post by happyhomemaker29
Whoa, whoa, whoa.
Taking medication as prescribed by your doctor for a known medical condition does not an addict make!
I can't believe this # I am reading.
When I was diagnosed with CF, the first step with my family was denial:
Yep, I'm totally faking it - I can even fake it on genetic tests and am so pro I can even fool sweat testing, bloodwork, ultrasound/MRIs, and spirometry.
All the constant pain I am in - just faking it! so I can pop pills. The O2 canisters and concentrators - it's just for show, man. My handicapped placard? It's because I am lazy and I love getting in on all the premium parking. No medical basis whatsoever. Everyone should do it, it's boss.
The next step was blame and deflection:
The reason I "came down" with CF is because I am not living right. It's totally my fault for doing ... something ... irresponsible and now I am paying the piper. Yep.
You also got it from your (deceased, and we never liked him anyways) father's side of the family. We are experts in biology and are getting ready to publish our first paper about the amazing miracle wunderkind who had both copies of the gene passed down from just one parent...
... If it is even genetic, I mean - it's still totally all my fault for something dumb I did. To admit otherwise would be to admit that maybe they are not so perfect as they thought and it would be so damaging to their fragile little egos.
Finally came the justifications:
* I'm fishing for sympathy.
* I'm just looking for reasons to avoid responsibility.
* I'm "playing it up" and it is not nearly as big of a deal as I'm making it out to be.
* Yeah, I "get that way" too sometimes.
* It's psychosomatic/I'm a hypochondriac.
* Nobody else in the family has it, so we're calling bull#.
* Everyone has problems so suck it up and quit playing the victim.
... and my all-time favorite ...
* But... but... YOU DON'T LOOK SICK!
Does any of this sound familiar, happyhomemaker??
I hope my wife doesn't find this post and read it because it will just make her all upset ... but I'm dying. I know in the philosophical sense we all are, I mean I am terminally ill. The only thing I don't know yet is just how fast this thing is going to go down.
You would think that during this time my family would have been empathetic, maybe going out of their way at least a little bit to share in whatever moments they can while the opportunity still exists, but this never happened.
And now it is their loss, not mine.
I guess my point is: Always be your own advocate, and don't let the idiots of the world no matter who they are get to you.
Emotional abuse (or psychological abuse) is a pattern of behavior that impairs a child's emotional development or sense of self-worth. This may include constant criticism, threats, or rejection, as well as withholding love, support, or guidance. Emotional abuse is often difficult to prove and, therefore, child protective services may not be able to intervene without evidence of harm or mental injury to the child.
Originally posted by ButterCookie
Basically, positive news is a repellant to them.
Many of you know a little about me. As a black woman in a circle of impoverished family members, essentially, I "dared" too much for them. I dared to 'leave the plantation' by:
wear my hair natural (not permed)
not voting Democratically
seeking higher education
not wanting to be comfortable living on welfare
not being religious
Water is thin, and blood is thick- but too much blood can make you sick.
edit on 22-5-2013 by ButterCookie because: (no reason given)
They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.
- Benjamin Franklin